Real Girl Code

Maybe I'm not suppose to say this but fuck it. Judge me if you want, I don't care.

Sometimes a woman needs to be a girl. Sometimes she needs to be held by a man she trusts and is able to be herself with, without judgement. Sometimes she needs to be reassured that everything she carries on her shoulders daily is ok. That everything she is struggling with will work itself out. That it's not for nothing. That her fight and strength for all that she wants is worth it. Sometimes she needs to be a girl that needs to be protected from the world and herself. She needs to feel that she is not alone and that she has someone by her side to help her through all these things. Sometimes she needs to cry in the arms of a man. Single or otherwise, it doesn't matter. She needs this physical and emotional protection and support now and then from a man. She knows he can't solve all the issues. A smart woman knows he can't make everything right suddenly and that this hug...holding...comforting will not make life suddenly easy and with no pain. But she still needs to feel and believe that when he says it will be ok, IT WILL BE OK.

Maybe I'm NOT suppose to say these things as a strong independent woman. But at the end of the day, truth is truth. And I believe admitting this, saying this, makes me even stronger. I'm a badass awesome chick. But it doesn't mean I'm stupid enough to believe and pretend that, fuck yeah, sometimes I need to be a girl, protected from the world by a man that I trust. I'm a lot to handle. Why do you think I admire Thor so much? Because that's the kind of man I know can handle me. Did I break Girl Code? Who gives a shit.

I'd Cook For Him

Lately, I've been talking to my close friends and explaining to them the "I'd cook for them" mentality. It's something i came up with to describe how i feel about someone overall. It came to me while talking to a friend i would definitely cook for, any time.

Think about it. There are those people we encounter, intimately that we either want to see in the morning or want them out 20mins after the deed is done. We make these decisions in our head really fast. Now if we want to see them in the morning, then the relationship on some level progresses. You might become closer and as you learn more about each other you start to realize, you want to see this person for breakfast and dinner...and dessert. So you go out whenever you can and eating, dancing, reading etc. is all great! You truly enjoy the time you spend with this person. BUT THEN ONE DAY IT HITS YOU! You want to do something for this person. Something special and straight from a very good place. You ponder and talk to your friends and think about it do death.

Then it comes to you. You want to cook for them. Let's assume you know how to cook, and if you don't you can totally wing it. (For the record i am a very good cook and baker, so i got dinner and dessert covered no problem!)

I have a handful of people i would cook for. It's not something i do for myself often, let alone others. But if you become someone i adore. Someone i want to see for breakfast and dinner, you probably have become someone I want to cook for. I'm not talking anything super extreme, just something really yummy and shows off some of your skills. Really though it's not about the cooking aspect, it's about showing the person you care about them and maybe even want to take care of them on some level. To feed someone is to nourish them, mind, body and soul. It could take your relationship to the next level, no matter what it is. It could cement what you already have. For the most part, i don't recall someone running away from someone after they cooked for them...again, assuming you know how to cook and don't poison them haha

I like to think of guys i'm attracted to as "yes i'd cook for him or no i wouldn't cook for him". Sure arm candy is nice, don't get me wrong. But someone i want to cook for and snuggle with afterwards is where it's at, for me at least. It definitely shows off a different side of yourself to that person. Who knows, it could go great or it could go horribly wrong. Either way, it's a great gesture...i mean who doesn't love a home cooked meal? Break the rules, open the cooking app and whip something up for that someone you want to cook for. It will be an adventure, neither of you will ever forget :)