iStalk

Yes, i admit it...i'm on a few internet dating sites. And what have i got to show for my long venture into online dating? Oddly enough, it's where i met one of my bestest friends in the whole world! Along with several other kickass females. It's funny, I've met more awesome women on these sites, than guys. Sure there are a handful of guys but nothing to write home about really...at least not yet. I'm hopeful, its a blessing a curse :)

(for the record I'm into guys, but when you are as awesome as me, you can't help but make friends of all kinds no matter where you are)

What is really fascinating about the online dating scene is, that technology has made it so very easy for us to stalk one another across platforms. I mean you get one person's email and you can pretty much locate them on a few dozen sites easily. You can become completely fascinated with someone quickly and then, maybe, grab your balls and contact them. Because you know, that's not creepy AT ALL. Who needs "Missed Connections" now when you can Google search a stalker picture you took of your secret crush when they weren't looking? Or you could just FaceBook, Google+, Twitter, Friend Finder, Friendster, Zoosk, Match.com, EHarmony, Our Time, ChristianMingle, JDate, BlackPeopleMeet.com, Chemistry.com, PlentyOFish, their email or full name and BOOM, let the stalking begin! 

Yeah, even the most innocent of "researching" can turn into a 2 hour trip down the rabbit hole of learning many things about your secret crush and then realizing you MIGHT have a problem lol 

What happened to lurking behind trees and parking lots to spy your crush? What happened to talking to them casually and getting bits of information little by little to get details of where they live, where they hangout and where they shop? What happened to always being around them at work/school, even when you have no reason to be near them? What happened to sending your friends to get details about them? What happened to rummaging through personal files at work to know where they live so you can drive by slowly at night? What happened to visiting their job 4 times a week to buy things you don't need just to make sure they remember you and have idle chit chat? What happened to mysterious flowers being delivered with a "From your secret admirer" card on it? What happened to originality?! Where is the imagination? Oh look i found you on Facebook and can look at all your pictures and dig into your friend list...SOOOOOOO ORIGINAL *eye roll*

Nope, no one puts any effort into stalking anymore. We have gotten even lazy about that! I for one enjoy the classic, stare at his picture, hope to talk to him for maybe 5 minutes and then tell my girlfriends how amazing that 5 minutes was. Oh and following him from a distance in my car to see where he lives...and what color his towels are when he showers. Yeah, i'm an old school, classy stalker.

Girl Code

Was talking about this with my bestie and decide to post up a quick list of Girl Codes. If you don't know what Girl Code is, it's pretty much certain unwritten code/rules all girls expect their fellow female friends to follow. And in some cases all females in general should follow for the sake of sisterhood.  Oh and there are lots more than I am listing but this is a good start for all girls to keep in mind.

- Don't date your girl friend's ex.
- Don't go after a guy your girl friend has declared an interest in.
- Don't take advances from a guy your girl friend is interested in.
- Don't let your girl friend go off with a guy without getting a picture of him or of his ID (crazy is everywhere these days!)
- When your girl friend is having a visit from the period fairy, you check her backside to make sure no accidents have occurred and if they have, inform her of such promptly!
- If you and your girl friend are all on period fairy time, make sure one of you has enough backup to go around.
- Don't let your girl friend go out looking a hot mess ever! Be honest and tell them.
- Don't leave your girl friend puking in the bathroom to return to the party. Leave no girl behind!
- If you see your girl friend's boyfriend cheating on her, you need to tell her and get pics if possible.
- Always have a code word, signal to get out of a bad situation.
- Don't judge your besties
- Encourage being a SAFE HOE after a bad break up or during a dry spell
- If need be, drive your (hoe) girl friend to the local drug store for Plan B and DO NOT LECTURE HER!
- Be supportive of any pregnancy scares, before and after testing happens. If the outcome is negative hit the bar immediately! If it's positive, be a solid shoulder and help them with what ever choice they make AFTER they see a doctor for confirmation.
- Tell your girl friend if her guy is a dick/jerk/asshole if he truly is one...not if you are just jealous of their happiness.
- With your besties, don't be a prude...let your freak flag fly!
- With your besties, have a secret plan to hide bodies or how to mind fuck a guy who screws you over, at all times.

As you can see, it's a pretty common sense thing, this Girl Code stuff. But sadly too many women have betrayed their friends by ignoring Girl Code. Don't be a bitch. If you truly cherish your girl friends, stick to Girl Code. In many cases, it will make your friendships even better!