Slips Out

Maybe i should become friends with your girlfriend so i can keep better tabs on you. No, who becomes friends with their enemies? Ok, i could but that takes more work and effort and i don't care enough to put that kind of effort into this. I rather not know her because then when i take what i want (i.e you) i won't have any guilt about it. And sense you don't feel that serious about her, it will be even easier.

Sometimes, the crazy slips out of me >=)

That Guy...

Father's Day is bittersweet for me. While i do love and cherish the guys that i know who are amazing dads and doing the right thing (my brother Quincey, my cousin Reggie, my friend Maximus, etc.) i can't actually say when i think of my own father i don't feel the need to tell him Happy Father's Day, let alone speak to him. I haven't bought him a card probably since i was 5 years old.

When i think of "father figures" i have always thought about my cousin Stephon. He was always there for me like a father/brother no matter how far apart physically we were. After him of course my grandfathers and a few other cousins who i am close too. These men, did for me what my own father should have done. They showed me what a REAL MAN is. They answered all of my questions i ever had (and i had thousands of them) about life and needed a man's perspective. These men helped me NOT have a jaded outlook on guys because of my lack of a father in my life. They helped me see that not all men are lame and fail when it comes to raising children. Not all men are spineless. Not all men pretend to be grown ass men, no they actually do it.

The other side is the women in my life (mom, grandmothers, aunts, godmother, etc.) have all been FIERCE STRONG WOMEN! They never let me feel like i was less awesome just because my father was not around. If anything they lifted me up HIGHER to make sure that i never felt anything but loved, cherished and amazing especially when my heart took big hits from my father.

That's the sweetness of this day! Knowing that i may have "lost" a father but in this loss i gained several amazing male figures and female figures in my life, that i really NEVER feel the loss. That's such a blessing that it makes me tear up! Because inspite of that dark spot in my life, the brightness i have blasts it away =) I don't get emotional over many things but this is one thing i do get emotional about because i know without these outstanding people in my life i wouldn't be where i am now. I would be another female statistic doing all kinds of wrong and having daddy issues up the wazoo! I'm super thankful!

Some people (guys) think i am too hard on them when it comes to being a father. Now you know why i am this way. Because i know exactly how it feels and i will be damned if i am going to let you get off easy after you have created a life. The same goes for women too who don't want to step up and do the right thing but that's another story for another time lol

To all the single mom's out there doing the mommy/daddy thing, you guys are my hero's! And i really hope you know that you are doing an amazingly difficult job but you do it so very well! Stand tall and be proud on this day too! You all deserve it and i love you dearly!

Funny How Life Works

It never ceases to amaze me how long i have been friends with people whom i have never met face to face. Some times i forget how they came into my life but i never forget how blessed i feel to have them in my life.

My internet life started back in 1995 and exploded in the following 3 years due to a number of factors but mostly because i got my own laptop and trolled the AOL chat rooms constantly! Yeah i was THAT NERD GIRL lol There are only a handful of people i still talk too from those first few years of internet life but the ones that are still around are and have always been amazing!

I mean let's be honest, most of our friends from when we are teenagers, fall off for some reason or another. Some times they do us wrong and other times life just takes us in opposite directions and we don't do anything to stay connected. On rare occasions though if both people are genuine and truly work to keep the friendship going, no matter what happens, you can have a very long and fulfilling bond that no matter how long it's been since you last talked or seen each other, you can pick up almost right where you left off. You learn to enjoy the little moments you have with these people. You value the history you have and continue to nourish it as you can.

Several people come to mind while i write this post. People who have touched my life in their own unique ways. And even though for all these years we still haven't met face to face, we still have a solid friendship that works. I hope you know who you are and i hope you know you are always on my mind and i miss you all the time =)

Don't take people for granted and cherish the close circle of friends you do have. The ones who accept us, flaws and all are always the best ones to keep around.

Let's Try To Stop...

1. Asking men what we rate on a scale of 1 to 10: You are a 10 no matter who you are, what you look like and all those other factors. If you yourself do not feel you are a 10 YOU are the only one who can raise that number. Don't do it for some guy who probably won't value you in the first place. Do it for YOURSELF! Do it because looking in the mirror and mildly turning yourself on is hot! Do it because confidence is much more sexier than pity. Do it because hanging out with confident people is much more fun!

2. Settling for the next thing that walks by: Men and Women settle. It's sadly apart of who we are when we are at our lowest. This desperate act isn't good for anyone. So don't settle. Even if it means not getting laid for longer than 6 months (i know its painful but it can be so very worth the wait!). Besides, when you settle, you get bored and have to break up and who wants to go through all that rubbish =P

3. Being a coward: I mean speak up for yourself and get what you want. See someone you want to talk to, do it. Ladies, buy a guy a drink or better yet, a burger! Guys, even if you think she is out of your league go for it! You have to try in order to know what will happen next. If you don't try, you will never know and yes, as cliche as it is, you will always ask "what if". So try shake off the "what if's" at least once a week and see what happens. And don't go wasting money on clothes and expensive things to try and make yourself FEEL BETTER about approaching someone, again you are awesome the way you are, so go show it off!

4. Believing the hype: Not all women are size freaks when it comes to men's packages. Not all men are size freaks when it comes to women's body type. So stop believing what the small percentage of society wants you to believe. Don't discount someone based on what your friends might think (unless they are against the person because it doesn't make YOU a better person). Let's dispel a few rumors...

-The size of a man's hands says nothing about his package! It will however tell you if he is metro, blue collard or white collard kind of guy.

-Not all black women are angry and ghetto, no matter what the movies and music videos show you. And not all of us want to be video hoes...or hoes at all.

-Not all women love accents. Even though it is hot, it doesn't mean we will drop panties for any guy with an accent...at least most of us have a little more class about us lol

-Women do judge a man on how he is dressed. It might be one of the last top 5 things we think about but it's there, so pull up your pants!

-Men LIKE to look at girls in tight, skin showing, ass and boobies out dressed women but they rarely date them for any real length of time, let alone marry them. So yes, the saying is true, "you can't turn a hoe into a housewife". Especially if you want her to stay faithful =P

-Nerds are definitely hot and sexy but not for the reasons most think. We like nerds and geeks because they generally aren't assholes. They think for themselves, get shit done and love their moms. Also, they are very laid back and have great sense of humor about life and themselves. So don't overlook that female or male nerd next time...we can be some of the best people you know ;)

-Lastly, not all women want a man with deep pockets or big bank accounts. Lots of money is nice thing to have but it doesn't make for a quality relationship and at the end of the day that's all most women want. Don't get it twisted though, you NEED TO HAVE A JOB! It just doesn't have to be Bill Gates status.

There is so much other things we as sane people need to stop doing to each other. Women have just as many hang ups as men, so we all put ourselves through the ringer. The thing we have to remember is, no matter what anyone says, you are awesome and deserve everything awesome life has to offer you. Go easy on yourself already!

WATCH, SHARE & CHECK YOURSELF OUT!

Amazing video we all should watch and share with everyone we know! I normally don't get emotional but this one gave me a few "deep breath" moments, which means its the real deal! I wish they showed this kind of stuff to us in Health class when i was 16!