This will be my one statement about the whole MLK Jr. Anniversary today.
I am so very thankful that not just my parents and grandparents but YOUR PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS believed in The Dream, enough to make sure WE (you and me sitting right here reading this) lived a life NOT SEPARATED. NOT closed off from one another. NOT in fear, anger and hatred for others just because of our skin tone. I am so very PROUD that my grandparents thought well enough to move from Arkansas where my mom was born and head on over to California to have a better life for them and future me! Same with my family in Chicago, Georgia, Kansas, Texas, Arizona, Nevada etc. Not too many generations behind me, they knew it would be best for them to leave such small mindedness behind and make a better life and future for all of us.
Your family did the same thing. They choose to leave places and take root somewhere else for their dreams. They raised your parents and your parents raised you to not be so small minded and closed off from people. They taught you to love one another based on character and not color, creed or religion.
Look at your friend's list. You have a rainbow of people from all over as your friends! YOU BROKE THE CYCLE! You continue to do so every single day too! You are nice to people no matter what their background. You are respectful. You care for them. You love them. You teach them through your actions. You kill them with kindness even when they are rude and don't deserve such things. YOU are the living embodiment of King's Dream! YOU MY FRIEND! MY FAMILY! MY PEOPLE!! You further The Dream message with how you raise your kids. You teach them equality and love for all no matter WHO the person is. You teach them just as your parents taught you. YOU FUCKING ROCK THE DREAM!
I am so very very VERY proud (damn it, i'm tearing up now lol) to say my best friends are Hispanic, Japanese, Black, White, gay, straight, fat, skinny, short, tall, smart and even slightly stupid (haha). So very proud to be able to walk down the street head held high and get the respect I deserve and have earned. I am so very proud that every single fucking day, I know somehow, somewhere I silenced a stereotype! You do it too! Whether you know it or not, you do! And you should be just as proud!
It's still a long road ahead of us to make MORE of an impact than we already have. But we are going to keep doing it as long as we keep living and teaching others how to open then eyes, hearts and minds to what is truly right. But I believe with all my being, that we are on the right track! And I am so very fucking proud to be apart of it with you all!
*drops the mic*
Aug 28, 2013
Aug 15, 2013
The First Time
You know the feeling you get the first time you hear a song? How it washes over you and can either make you hate it or love it in 30 seconds?
The first time you hear a song, that is the purest feeling you will ever have about that song ever. After that, you might have the same feelings but it won't be as pure as the first time. Your feelings might change. It could become worse or grow on you. No matter what though...it will never feel the same ever again.
The thoughts that came to you while you listened may never happen again. What you related to, during the first listen, might disappear as you go deeper into the song the second time around.
I LOVE that feeling. The first listen for me is as amazing or horrible as any other "first time" experience. The chills up my spine. The hairs raising on my arms. The smile or frown that slowly creeps upon my face. That feeling of, "yes, give me more!" or "what the hell is this?" becomes stronger as the seconds click by. And when some song makes me want it to never end...well forget about it!
You could almost say, I get an insta-crush on music when it touches me, the way only music can.
When my friend introduced me to Tokimonsta "Go With It"...I got the biggest crush I've had in awhile. I instantly felt it caress all over me. It was like taking a first taste of your favorite wine or beer. The warm tingly feeling that arises from your toes to the top of your head! The overwhelming feeling to hug my friend came over me! I had to dive deeper to feed the beast, so to speak. So I looked Tokimonsta up and just had a field day listening to her tracks! I even told him, he created a Toki Monster hehehe I know cheesy but whatever! I was in music heaven :P
Sadly, there is so much garbage being churned out in the music industry, you either have to dig deep and way outside the box to find things of quality, or you go back into your library when music was good and never listen to the radio again. This is why I love NPR Music and my friend for constantly giving me new tunes to feed my soul. Love my dj friends as well who always give great tracks to download and make the days seem much better, no matter what mood I'm in.
I could go on and on about music for hours, maybe even days on end. But I won't bore you all any longer haha I will say though, I saw a twitter account about Sagittarius' that I now follow and it did say this..."ask a Sagittarius about a song they love, and you will learn very much about them." I find this to be true. At least about me that is. Anyone that has ever listened to music with me or gone to a show/concert with me knows, music is pretty much my first love that will never be replaced by any person...not even Thor. And I do LOVE me some Thor! :)
After you watch the video, definitely feel free to ask me what this song/video REALLY made me feel and I will be more than happy to tell you all about it!
Here is the official video for the Tokimonsta song!
The first time you hear a song, that is the purest feeling you will ever have about that song ever. After that, you might have the same feelings but it won't be as pure as the first time. Your feelings might change. It could become worse or grow on you. No matter what though...it will never feel the same ever again.
The thoughts that came to you while you listened may never happen again. What you related to, during the first listen, might disappear as you go deeper into the song the second time around.
I LOVE that feeling. The first listen for me is as amazing or horrible as any other "first time" experience. The chills up my spine. The hairs raising on my arms. The smile or frown that slowly creeps upon my face. That feeling of, "yes, give me more!" or "what the hell is this?" becomes stronger as the seconds click by. And when some song makes me want it to never end...well forget about it!
You could almost say, I get an insta-crush on music when it touches me, the way only music can.
When my friend introduced me to Tokimonsta "Go With It"...I got the biggest crush I've had in awhile. I instantly felt it caress all over me. It was like taking a first taste of your favorite wine or beer. The warm tingly feeling that arises from your toes to the top of your head! The overwhelming feeling to hug my friend came over me! I had to dive deeper to feed the beast, so to speak. So I looked Tokimonsta up and just had a field day listening to her tracks! I even told him, he created a Toki Monster hehehe I know cheesy but whatever! I was in music heaven :P
Sadly, there is so much garbage being churned out in the music industry, you either have to dig deep and way outside the box to find things of quality, or you go back into your library when music was good and never listen to the radio again. This is why I love NPR Music and my friend for constantly giving me new tunes to feed my soul. Love my dj friends as well who always give great tracks to download and make the days seem much better, no matter what mood I'm in.
I could go on and on about music for hours, maybe even days on end. But I won't bore you all any longer haha I will say though, I saw a twitter account about Sagittarius' that I now follow and it did say this..."ask a Sagittarius about a song they love, and you will learn very much about them." I find this to be true. At least about me that is. Anyone that has ever listened to music with me or gone to a show/concert with me knows, music is pretty much my first love that will never be replaced by any person...not even Thor. And I do LOVE me some Thor! :)
After you watch the video, definitely feel free to ask me what this song/video REALLY made me feel and I will be more than happy to tell you all about it!
Here is the official video for the Tokimonsta song!
Aug 4, 2013
Cream In My Coffee
So, I was going to write a long detailed post about dating outside of your race/culture. And how society still frowns on it. How I cheer just a wee bit louder when I see an interracial couple together, in love and not caring what others think. My heart skips a beat when I see a white man with a black woman. I get a little giddy at that sight. I'm fascinated when I see someone of Hispanic origin with an Asian partner. No matter what the combo is, I'm always fascinated about how they met, how their families feel about it and how they deal with the potential drama that people just want to bring into their lives.
I could go on about this for hours really. So fucking fascinating! I could talk about my first major crush on a boy at school who was white with freckles even! His name was Kurt LOL Yeah, good times!! I could talk about when i asked my mom how she would feel if i married a white boy. Her answer was simple and well put, "A good man, is a good man, no matter what his race is. As long as he is a good man to you, I don't care what he is." Oh mothers...always giving sage advice that sticks with us forever! Love them!
I could go on and on about people asking me "have you ever dated a black man?" because I guess they noticed my affinity for handsome white guys. And then them being shocked that I have and have no real issues dating black guys, I just don't meet many that I would date lol And then they want me to explain to them what is the differences and why i gravitate towards one and not the other (can you see my eyes rolling?). People want to know the details of my damn dating life for some reason. They don't "get it", whatever that means. Hell, I've done full on discussions with people about the differences. Then they want to know have I dated other cultures and I have to tell them yes, I've dated lots of other cultures and they all have a story of their own. But I don't put those experiences against their whole culture. That would be stupid and ignorant...alas people do it.
I could also talk about how I've been told by many people throughout my life, "you aren't like other black girls." (can you see my eyes roll?) Well, of course I'm not! I'm just ME. There is no one else like me and there never will be. So of course I'm not like other black girls...stop making a big deal about it already. OH and don't get me started on the "I've never been with a black woman before, what's it like?" guys! OH GOOD LAWD!! I always tell them, "Neither have I". Some get it but some don't and that just makes me sad for mankind in general lol Do I want to be someone's "first black woman" experience? Depends on the guy really. The ones that just have that freaky fantasy fetish deal about it, NOPE. The guy who just hasn't met a cool awesome black chick like myself and doesn't really care about it, sure why not. I don't want to be someone's experiment or thesis. No one wants that.
Look...i just talked about all that lol
Love is Love. Like is Like. Lust is Lust. What gets you going, is your own business. My crushes and lust objects have no color lines. My friends have no color lines. What attracts me to a person isn't just whats on the outside. Its definitely about their personality. The color of their skin or background is just another layer of them. Can we compare stories of our families and things, of course we can! I love doing that! Because somewhere there is always a common thread. Do I have high expectations for different cultures? Hhhmm yes, I do. I expect much more from a black man on a different level, than I do a white man. Not to say I don't have high standards for white men either...because I definitely do lol But it's all relative really. No matter who they are, like my mama said, he has to be a good man, period. If he isn't, i don't care how sexy he is, how much money he has or anything else. If he isn't a good man, there is no point in me thinking twice about him.
It would be nice to see, in my lifetime, people stop looking at me funny when I'm out with a white guy or some other guy who isn't black. It would be nice to be treated with respect all the time, when I'm with a black guy. It would be nice to not be judged on appearances, period. Do I think this will happen in my lifetime...probably not. But do I let it get me down and hide from the world the person I'm in love with and whom loves me? Hells no! Like I tell everyone with their own choices, that make them happy...OWN IT! You like it, I love it! Own what you love, like, makes you feel good! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Maybe one day, I will go into a much more detailed post about my preferences. Maybe, I will even do a podcast about it. Who knows. But it's definitely a topic I never get tired of talking/exploring/sharing. The world is full of amazing people, don't be afraid to mix things up.
I could go on about this for hours really. So fucking fascinating! I could talk about my first major crush on a boy at school who was white with freckles even! His name was Kurt LOL Yeah, good times!! I could talk about when i asked my mom how she would feel if i married a white boy. Her answer was simple and well put, "A good man, is a good man, no matter what his race is. As long as he is a good man to you, I don't care what he is." Oh mothers...always giving sage advice that sticks with us forever! Love them!
I could go on and on about people asking me "have you ever dated a black man?" because I guess they noticed my affinity for handsome white guys. And then them being shocked that I have and have no real issues dating black guys, I just don't meet many that I would date lol And then they want me to explain to them what is the differences and why i gravitate towards one and not the other (can you see my eyes rolling?). People want to know the details of my damn dating life for some reason. They don't "get it", whatever that means. Hell, I've done full on discussions with people about the differences. Then they want to know have I dated other cultures and I have to tell them yes, I've dated lots of other cultures and they all have a story of their own. But I don't put those experiences against their whole culture. That would be stupid and ignorant...alas people do it.
I could also talk about how I've been told by many people throughout my life, "you aren't like other black girls." (can you see my eyes roll?) Well, of course I'm not! I'm just ME. There is no one else like me and there never will be. So of course I'm not like other black girls...stop making a big deal about it already. OH and don't get me started on the "I've never been with a black woman before, what's it like?" guys! OH GOOD LAWD!! I always tell them, "Neither have I". Some get it but some don't and that just makes me sad for mankind in general lol Do I want to be someone's "first black woman" experience? Depends on the guy really. The ones that just have that freaky fantasy fetish deal about it, NOPE. The guy who just hasn't met a cool awesome black chick like myself and doesn't really care about it, sure why not. I don't want to be someone's experiment or thesis. No one wants that.
Look...i just talked about all that lol
Love is Love. Like is Like. Lust is Lust. What gets you going, is your own business. My crushes and lust objects have no color lines. My friends have no color lines. What attracts me to a person isn't just whats on the outside. Its definitely about their personality. The color of their skin or background is just another layer of them. Can we compare stories of our families and things, of course we can! I love doing that! Because somewhere there is always a common thread. Do I have high expectations for different cultures? Hhhmm yes, I do. I expect much more from a black man on a different level, than I do a white man. Not to say I don't have high standards for white men either...because I definitely do lol But it's all relative really. No matter who they are, like my mama said, he has to be a good man, period. If he isn't, i don't care how sexy he is, how much money he has or anything else. If he isn't a good man, there is no point in me thinking twice about him.
It would be nice to see, in my lifetime, people stop looking at me funny when I'm out with a white guy or some other guy who isn't black. It would be nice to be treated with respect all the time, when I'm with a black guy. It would be nice to not be judged on appearances, period. Do I think this will happen in my lifetime...probably not. But do I let it get me down and hide from the world the person I'm in love with and whom loves me? Hells no! Like I tell everyone with their own choices, that make them happy...OWN IT! You like it, I love it! Own what you love, like, makes you feel good! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Maybe one day, I will go into a much more detailed post about my preferences. Maybe, I will even do a podcast about it. Who knows. But it's definitely a topic I never get tired of talking/exploring/sharing. The world is full of amazing people, don't be afraid to mix things up.
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