When i go dancing, i go all out. I love feeling the bass boom through my feet all the way to the tips of my fingers. I love the atmosphere of sharing the same joy with strangers. Whether it's in a hot club in Vegas or a pool party or in a museum surrounded by stuffed animals, i love it all. I experience it with my whole being and everything is perfect for that moment. The sweat dripping down my face, the sway of my hips, the need to move even if I don't know the song...it's everything. It. Is. Everything. Even when I was feeling tired of bumping into people, trying to find my girls in darkness and flashing lights and my feet hurt, if i was able to shake it, i did. I'm the girl dancing at the bar while waiting for the bartender to get to me. I'm the one dancing through the crowd, trying to get to the bathroom. I'm the one dancing up and down the stairs saying hello to the security guards. I'm the one dancing in line, trying to get into a place. I'm the one dancing. I may not have the best moves, the sexiest outfit on or look like "that girl" but I am going to have the best time I can. While all the other girls are barely moving because their feet are killing them, I'm jumping up and down to the EDM and getting my swerve on to the bangin hip hop bass. I make friends without even trying. When you don't care and just have a good time, you find those people in the crowd as well and before you know it, you're booty bumping, shoulder bouncing with someone just as cool as you. Hell, i even run into them if i move to another room and we are happy to do it all over again!
While in Vegas, something magical happened while we were at Encore Beach Club. It would be so random but fit so perfectly. The wind would kick up during the rising crescendo of whatever song was blasting and everyone would throw their hands up and feel the love and power of nature and human spirit become one. A few guys tried to talk to me while i danced, hair flying everywhere and I wasn't trying to be rude, but I had no time for them lol Especially when a few of my faves played. I was flying high on life and joy...i have no time for your shenanigans! They were all perverts anyways lol
And of course while dancing with my bestie Michelle, we always have a great time singing the lyrics and really letting loose. We can always sense the tension just leaving us and really letting go! Of course, having a few drinks in you doesn't hurt either lol We dance like nobody is watching and don't care if they are. Isn't that what it's all about anyways? Feeling alive!
I could talk for hours about each night we danced in Vegas. I could talk about the good times we had where ever we went. How we danced with strangers on the street. How i danced with a chick in the long line for the bathroom. How i danced while my girls complained about it being too cold and windy to be outside and i begged them for 5 more minutes lol How we all sang loud and proud to the old school songs at Body English and enjoyed every second of it! I could go on for days...but I won't. You just had to be there. I'm not sure how I'm going to handle the withdrawals from this trip but I know blasting a lil music and dancing in my room will surely help :)
Apr 28, 2014
Mar 27, 2014
Velvet Rope Revisited
OK so Janet's Velvet Rope came out in 1997. I was a teenager going through lots during that time. I didn't care that it got bad reviews, I love me some Janet and I was going to love the album, period, right? Wrong. I actually didn't warm up to it at all for almost 6 months after getting it. I didn't "get it". I didn't understand what was the message of all the randomness and interludes. There as no flow with the songs at all.
Cut to me being in Chicago with my fam bam and I talked to my brother Steph about it (we are both huge fans). He had to explain to me that "Janet is feeling herself right now. Doesn't matter if it makes sense, it's her album her way and you have to take it one track at a time." I kind of understood but still, it was weird lol Then he said, "You will get it when you are older." Well who wants to hear that?! I've always been wise beyond my years, so I just didn't understand why he would tell me such a cliche.
Then I got older. I no longer had her posters all over my walls and all that. No more BSB either haha Around the age of 23 I rediscovered Velvet Rope and it all became much clearer. Steph said "Told you so" lol
NOW, being around the same age she was when she recorded the album, I get it even more so. She was a collection of these fun and sexy things. Layers upon layers that were all being shown via the album. I can relate MUCH MORE to the songs now. I've lived where I get the underlying messages. I get why she had to curse (something new for her on albums), why there was pain, anger, naughty, fun, silly and growth in this album. I also see why people didn't like it...they didn't get it. Us fans were still loving poppy and dancy Janet, not ready for the heavy and deeper Janet. Did it stop me from going to the concert? Hells no! Did it stop me from knowing all the words to my mom's disdain in some cases? Hells no! LOL
It's always amazing how something can grow with us and though we don't fully understand it, in time we do and it's even more special. I've loved Janet when everybody else was on the Michael fan base. She is probably one of few artists I've literally grown up with and loved through all the ups and downs and questionable moments (don't get me started on JD!). She was like the big sister I never had. I don't know if I am as awesome or ever will be as she is in my own mind. I do know I got those layers too. And I'm proud of them. Velvet Rope is a trip and a half but it's nice to finally get the whole picture and love it even more.
Music...such a beautiful trip no matter who you are and what you like.
My favorite track from Velvet Rope, "I Get Lonely" (don't act like you don't know!) Also, love the track she did with Q-Tip! Always made me wonder what they did mmhhmm I ain't mad at all gurl! lol
Cut to me being in Chicago with my fam bam and I talked to my brother Steph about it (we are both huge fans). He had to explain to me that "Janet is feeling herself right now. Doesn't matter if it makes sense, it's her album her way and you have to take it one track at a time." I kind of understood but still, it was weird lol Then he said, "You will get it when you are older." Well who wants to hear that?! I've always been wise beyond my years, so I just didn't understand why he would tell me such a cliche.
Then I got older. I no longer had her posters all over my walls and all that. No more BSB either haha Around the age of 23 I rediscovered Velvet Rope and it all became much clearer. Steph said "Told you so" lol
NOW, being around the same age she was when she recorded the album, I get it even more so. She was a collection of these fun and sexy things. Layers upon layers that were all being shown via the album. I can relate MUCH MORE to the songs now. I've lived where I get the underlying messages. I get why she had to curse (something new for her on albums), why there was pain, anger, naughty, fun, silly and growth in this album. I also see why people didn't like it...they didn't get it. Us fans were still loving poppy and dancy Janet, not ready for the heavy and deeper Janet. Did it stop me from going to the concert? Hells no! Did it stop me from knowing all the words to my mom's disdain in some cases? Hells no! LOL
It's always amazing how something can grow with us and though we don't fully understand it, in time we do and it's even more special. I've loved Janet when everybody else was on the Michael fan base. She is probably one of few artists I've literally grown up with and loved through all the ups and downs and questionable moments (don't get me started on JD!). She was like the big sister I never had. I don't know if I am as awesome or ever will be as she is in my own mind. I do know I got those layers too. And I'm proud of them. Velvet Rope is a trip and a half but it's nice to finally get the whole picture and love it even more.
Music...such a beautiful trip no matter who you are and what you like.
My favorite track from Velvet Rope, "I Get Lonely" (don't act like you don't know!) Also, love the track she did with Q-Tip! Always made me wonder what they did mmhhmm I ain't mad at all gurl! lol
Mar 2, 2014
Rant About Oscars
Ok...I'm going to say it. And if you don't like it, I don't really care. It is what it is.
We all knew 12 Years a Slave was going to win. Don't act like it's big, new and exciting news. We knew this was going to happen. Every time a slave movie comes out, OF COURSE it's going to win all the awards and get all the hype and all that stuff. It's like for a moment in time, everyone who is on whatever committee that decides these things, says "Yes...that movie was great, it needs an award. Because if we don't, they will all be mad at us and we don't want that. Yes, give the black movie an award. That was easy." I'm so over this. I'm over slave movies, over people making money off of slavery. It's not something that needs to be repeatedly depicted on some grand level. Are we trying to make people feel guilty or trying to appease a certain type of people so they stop trying to revolt against us? Are we scared to NOT give it an award? Why in the world are we even GIVING AWARDS?!
There is no real rhyme or reason for all these award shows. All we need is one for all the movies that were worthy the prior year and call it a day. Stop giving all these awards for the same damn movie all year long! You got an Oscar...that's all you need! Just that. No more. Maybe a SAG one too but that's truly it! These things have become nothing but shallow, flashy, instagram events. Oh let's applaud us doing our job and what we love, yes, lets give each other statues made in a 3rd world country to show each other how awesome we are. Let's play dress up everybody!! Don't get me wrong, i love dressing up and going out. But i can find 1000 other things to do than sit for hours, in an amazing outfit, all done and clapping for hours on end. Why not just have a damn party and be like "You are all awesome actors, let's drink!" and call it a bloody day? Nonsense the lot of it, i tell you!
When Will Smith trotted out on stage WE ALL KNEW, what movie was going to win! COME ON NOW! If 12 Years a Slave didn't win...Oprah, Kobe, Al Sharpton and every other over dramatic person, would have all tweeted, facebooked and instragramed the hell out of social media about the movie losing. It would have become a media storm of epic proportions in the entertainment world. Hell regular news stations would even report about it, because ya know...nothing else important is going on in the world. And if SOMEBODY ASKED OBAMA ABOUT IT...I SWEAR!
*give me a minute*
Now, please...don't you EVER THINK I don't support good movies, good actors and all that. I do. I love film! I appreciate it on a whole other level. And I am not saying 12 Years a Slave wasn't a great film (it should be said, i haven't seen it yet...doesn't make my points any less valid though and if you think so, you clearly don't get it.) What I am saying is...let's stop with the slave movies. Let's stop giving people awards because you feel guilty about things done in the past. Stop making it "ok" about things done in the past. It wasn't OK. It will never BE OK. But it happened and we need to accept it and move on from it. I don't want there to be some movie about gays coming out either about their struggle and we give that an award just to appease that group of people. I'd feel the same way if it was a gay, hispanic, albiano or any other minority film. A golden statue isn't going to make it better. It's so fucking shallow to think it will too.
I can hear some of you now...but the struggle is real, the fight is still going on...bla bla bla
Screw all that noise! Let's be real, shall we...
The struggle is put upon yourself after all these years. If you can't get shit together that's on YOU. NOT someone else. If someone doesn't want you to work at a company because of your race, sexual orientation etc. screw them! Move on...find a company that WILL hire you based on your experience and not the other stuff. Don't act like you are being held back because of these things. You aren't. The only thing holding you back is YOU! If you have a tattoo and they don't want you to have one...you got 2 choices to make...leave the job or cover the tattoo. But don't act like "society is holding me down because of my ink, man" SHUT UP WITH THAT NONSENSE! You can do whatever the hell you want. You can be whatever the hell you want. You don't have to let ignorance hold you back. You dont' have to let close minded people keep you from your goals. And you don't have to accept pity anything. People like to play off bribes and appeasing someone with things like promotions, gifts, extra vacation days, extra food and lots of other things to try and make up for their ignorance, bigotry, homophobia, racism and all those other personality issues. You don't have to deal with that. You can get up, walk away and make your own damn path of awesomeness!
Everyone in 12 Years a Slave deserved to make something great. They are all great at what they do. I support the art of making a film. The art of writing a film. The art of actors. The art of film as a whole is amazing and should be supported. But I don't like the dumbing down and shallow mirror these awards shows bring to the art. Instead of giving it all these awards, why not just let it be in theaters longer for more people to watch. Why not bring down the price of a damn movie ticket. Why not release it all over so EVERYONE has a chance to see it and celebrate it. Why not give the heartfelt films bigger budgets and not just hype up the blockbusters all the damn time. And when it goes to DVD, stop jacking up the price because of all the extras. And stop watering it down when it hits cable tv. Because I am so tired of seeing the watered down version of ROOTS all over the damn place! Maybe that's another reason why I'm over slave movies. ROOTS was it. We didn't need another version of it. We didn't need 10 more films showing how slaves had it hard and all that mess. We got it...we got ROOTS...we don't need anymore. The same goes for Jesus films and movies about cars going fast (i'm just saying, don't hate the truth!)
Lastly...Mr. AlrightAlrightAlright didn't deserve that award. I don't care what anyone says. NO. NOPE. NO. I don't understand how DiCaprio got snubbed AGAIN! He is 1000 times better than McCoughney will ever hope to be! He embodies one of the best acting talents we have ever seen. And if he just couldn't have it, why not Bale? BALE! Who cares if he was Batman (though i LOOOOVVEEE Batman), he can act circles around McCoughney as well and still got snubbed! But you know what, it's all good. Because both Bale and DiCaprio will still keep doing amazing work! They will keep taking us to places we didn't even know were real. They will keep pumping out phenomenal work and McCoughney will just bang his bangos, make more babies and talk about that one time he won an Oscar. I loathe that man. Can barely make sense let alone a good movie.
That's all i got. You hate it or love it, I don't care. I'mma still be me and I'mma still keep posting my thoughts, no matter what anyone thinks! DO YOU!!
We all knew 12 Years a Slave was going to win. Don't act like it's big, new and exciting news. We knew this was going to happen. Every time a slave movie comes out, OF COURSE it's going to win all the awards and get all the hype and all that stuff. It's like for a moment in time, everyone who is on whatever committee that decides these things, says "Yes...that movie was great, it needs an award. Because if we don't, they will all be mad at us and we don't want that. Yes, give the black movie an award. That was easy." I'm so over this. I'm over slave movies, over people making money off of slavery. It's not something that needs to be repeatedly depicted on some grand level. Are we trying to make people feel guilty or trying to appease a certain type of people so they stop trying to revolt against us? Are we scared to NOT give it an award? Why in the world are we even GIVING AWARDS?!
There is no real rhyme or reason for all these award shows. All we need is one for all the movies that were worthy the prior year and call it a day. Stop giving all these awards for the same damn movie all year long! You got an Oscar...that's all you need! Just that. No more. Maybe a SAG one too but that's truly it! These things have become nothing but shallow, flashy, instagram events. Oh let's applaud us doing our job and what we love, yes, lets give each other statues made in a 3rd world country to show each other how awesome we are. Let's play dress up everybody!! Don't get me wrong, i love dressing up and going out. But i can find 1000 other things to do than sit for hours, in an amazing outfit, all done and clapping for hours on end. Why not just have a damn party and be like "You are all awesome actors, let's drink!" and call it a bloody day? Nonsense the lot of it, i tell you!
When Will Smith trotted out on stage WE ALL KNEW, what movie was going to win! COME ON NOW! If 12 Years a Slave didn't win...Oprah, Kobe, Al Sharpton and every other over dramatic person, would have all tweeted, facebooked and instragramed the hell out of social media about the movie losing. It would have become a media storm of epic proportions in the entertainment world. Hell regular news stations would even report about it, because ya know...nothing else important is going on in the world. And if SOMEBODY ASKED OBAMA ABOUT IT...I SWEAR!
*give me a minute*
Now, please...don't you EVER THINK I don't support good movies, good actors and all that. I do. I love film! I appreciate it on a whole other level. And I am not saying 12 Years a Slave wasn't a great film (it should be said, i haven't seen it yet...doesn't make my points any less valid though and if you think so, you clearly don't get it.) What I am saying is...let's stop with the slave movies. Let's stop giving people awards because you feel guilty about things done in the past. Stop making it "ok" about things done in the past. It wasn't OK. It will never BE OK. But it happened and we need to accept it and move on from it. I don't want there to be some movie about gays coming out either about their struggle and we give that an award just to appease that group of people. I'd feel the same way if it was a gay, hispanic, albiano or any other minority film. A golden statue isn't going to make it better. It's so fucking shallow to think it will too.
I can hear some of you now...but the struggle is real, the fight is still going on...bla bla bla
Screw all that noise! Let's be real, shall we...
The struggle is put upon yourself after all these years. If you can't get shit together that's on YOU. NOT someone else. If someone doesn't want you to work at a company because of your race, sexual orientation etc. screw them! Move on...find a company that WILL hire you based on your experience and not the other stuff. Don't act like you are being held back because of these things. You aren't. The only thing holding you back is YOU! If you have a tattoo and they don't want you to have one...you got 2 choices to make...leave the job or cover the tattoo. But don't act like "society is holding me down because of my ink, man" SHUT UP WITH THAT NONSENSE! You can do whatever the hell you want. You can be whatever the hell you want. You don't have to let ignorance hold you back. You dont' have to let close minded people keep you from your goals. And you don't have to accept pity anything. People like to play off bribes and appeasing someone with things like promotions, gifts, extra vacation days, extra food and lots of other things to try and make up for their ignorance, bigotry, homophobia, racism and all those other personality issues. You don't have to deal with that. You can get up, walk away and make your own damn path of awesomeness!
Everyone in 12 Years a Slave deserved to make something great. They are all great at what they do. I support the art of making a film. The art of writing a film. The art of actors. The art of film as a whole is amazing and should be supported. But I don't like the dumbing down and shallow mirror these awards shows bring to the art. Instead of giving it all these awards, why not just let it be in theaters longer for more people to watch. Why not bring down the price of a damn movie ticket. Why not release it all over so EVERYONE has a chance to see it and celebrate it. Why not give the heartfelt films bigger budgets and not just hype up the blockbusters all the damn time. And when it goes to DVD, stop jacking up the price because of all the extras. And stop watering it down when it hits cable tv. Because I am so tired of seeing the watered down version of ROOTS all over the damn place! Maybe that's another reason why I'm over slave movies. ROOTS was it. We didn't need another version of it. We didn't need 10 more films showing how slaves had it hard and all that mess. We got it...we got ROOTS...we don't need anymore. The same goes for Jesus films and movies about cars going fast (i'm just saying, don't hate the truth!)
Lastly...Mr. AlrightAlrightAlright didn't deserve that award. I don't care what anyone says. NO. NOPE. NO. I don't understand how DiCaprio got snubbed AGAIN! He is 1000 times better than McCoughney will ever hope to be! He embodies one of the best acting talents we have ever seen. And if he just couldn't have it, why not Bale? BALE! Who cares if he was Batman (though i LOOOOVVEEE Batman), he can act circles around McCoughney as well and still got snubbed! But you know what, it's all good. Because both Bale and DiCaprio will still keep doing amazing work! They will keep taking us to places we didn't even know were real. They will keep pumping out phenomenal work and McCoughney will just bang his bangos, make more babies and talk about that one time he won an Oscar. I loathe that man. Can barely make sense let alone a good movie.
That's all i got. You hate it or love it, I don't care. I'mma still be me and I'mma still keep posting my thoughts, no matter what anyone thinks! DO YOU!!
Jan 14, 2014
iCrave
So everyone did New Years Resolutions and is trying to stick to them, 14 days into the New Year. If you are still sticking with yours, CONGRATS! I'm happy for you! If you have already given up, no worries, you have tons of the year left to better yourself any time you want :) The whole pressure to start a New Year being this or that is hard. I think you can do it anytime, no matter what year it is and still succeed.
That said, I didn't make a resolution until maybe a week ago? Something like that lol I decided I'm going to stop chasing guys...really people in general. Stop putting forth MORE effort in friendships with people who I'm getting not nearly enough in return. I have a habit of being TOO available to many people who don't deserve that much of my time. I have a big heart. I really want to help as many people as i can be happy and feel cared for...even if it's at my own expense. This leads to me being taken for granted and left alone and bitter when I need someone. The giving person usually suffers silently when they have their own problems. We keep it to ourselves because we don't want to be a "burden" to anyone else. But if someone needs us, we are right there with all the love, effort and friendship you need...no matter when it is. This, for me, needs to calm down a bit. Putting others ahead of myself has smothered me and turned me sort of against helping people all together. When i get overwhelmed with helping everyone else, I can't handle my own issues and I just want to shut down and shut out the World. I have to pull back for my own sanity.
I deserve to make myself happy. I deserve to be cared for and about. I HAVE people who will be there for me whenever I need them and I need to utilize that MORE than i do. Because being quiet and keeping it to myself doesn't help anyone...ever. I am only human...a human with a huge heart and soul. But I'm over being abused and taken for granted.
This year I really want MORE EXPERIENCES AND ADVENTURES!! I have to see more of the people i love this year. I have to do that, there is no doubt about that. It's something I NEED to do actually. People always say, "i want to live more". Pft! I live lots, what i want to do is add more LIFE into my LIFE...if that makes any sense lol I want to give espresso shots to my life! Shake everything up and do what i want that makes me happy!
So this year, I guess I am going to be more selfish. I gave a lot of myself in 2013...some by choice and some not by choice. In 2012 i was vastly more selfish but I still didn't get as much done as I would have liked too. So this year I'm taking the best of both and maybe giving a bit more to myself overall. I deserve it! I have earned it! I'm too awesome NOT to give myself everything I want and need. Don't get it twisted though, when i say selfish that doesn't mean I'm going to ignore my friends and family and go on some Lindsay Lohan binge or debauchery lol It means, those of you whom i cherish will get to share these experiences with me MORE and we will have the best memories and times together! But when I need my ME TIME, let me have that please haha
I hope you all continue to have a great, promising and amazing 2014! Don't wait for life to happen! Go grab it by the balls and make it your bitch!
That said, I didn't make a resolution until maybe a week ago? Something like that lol I decided I'm going to stop chasing guys...really people in general. Stop putting forth MORE effort in friendships with people who I'm getting not nearly enough in return. I have a habit of being TOO available to many people who don't deserve that much of my time. I have a big heart. I really want to help as many people as i can be happy and feel cared for...even if it's at my own expense. This leads to me being taken for granted and left alone and bitter when I need someone. The giving person usually suffers silently when they have their own problems. We keep it to ourselves because we don't want to be a "burden" to anyone else. But if someone needs us, we are right there with all the love, effort and friendship you need...no matter when it is. This, for me, needs to calm down a bit. Putting others ahead of myself has smothered me and turned me sort of against helping people all together. When i get overwhelmed with helping everyone else, I can't handle my own issues and I just want to shut down and shut out the World. I have to pull back for my own sanity.
I deserve to make myself happy. I deserve to be cared for and about. I HAVE people who will be there for me whenever I need them and I need to utilize that MORE than i do. Because being quiet and keeping it to myself doesn't help anyone...ever. I am only human...a human with a huge heart and soul. But I'm over being abused and taken for granted.
This year I really want MORE EXPERIENCES AND ADVENTURES!! I have to see more of the people i love this year. I have to do that, there is no doubt about that. It's something I NEED to do actually. People always say, "i want to live more". Pft! I live lots, what i want to do is add more LIFE into my LIFE...if that makes any sense lol I want to give espresso shots to my life! Shake everything up and do what i want that makes me happy!
So this year, I guess I am going to be more selfish. I gave a lot of myself in 2013...some by choice and some not by choice. In 2012 i was vastly more selfish but I still didn't get as much done as I would have liked too. So this year I'm taking the best of both and maybe giving a bit more to myself overall. I deserve it! I have earned it! I'm too awesome NOT to give myself everything I want and need. Don't get it twisted though, when i say selfish that doesn't mean I'm going to ignore my friends and family and go on some Lindsay Lohan binge or debauchery lol It means, those of you whom i cherish will get to share these experiences with me MORE and we will have the best memories and times together! But when I need my ME TIME, let me have that please haha
I hope you all continue to have a great, promising and amazing 2014! Don't wait for life to happen! Go grab it by the balls and make it your bitch!
Jan 6, 2014
White Flame
She is the one holding those quiet moments in her hands
She has those secrets you dare not share with anyone
But you shared it with her
Told her your fears, your joys, everything
Trusted her with a piece of your soul
As you should have
She is the one who would never betray you
The one who would stand by you in the darkest nights and brightest days
She protected you from yourself
You gave her things you've never given anyone else before
Made her apart of you in a subtle but intense way
She never did you wrong
Never held anything you said in trust over you
She took those things in her hands and locked them away for safe keeping
Not a word shall be uttered
Not a regret made
The only one with the key is you and her
And she would not use her's unless you asked her to do so
Oh the power she has with such secrets
The things she could do to you
The worlds she could destroy with a whisper
But she does not
It doesn't even cross her mind to do such evil
Because she is a rare woman indeed
Not a second place, but a first and only woman
You know someone like her only comes around once in this life
This realization makes you grab ahold of her and adore her with all your being
And she...
She makes you feel like the only man she will ever care about so deeply
Makes you feel like the King of her world, every single day
Everyone knows you got the best
Everyone tells you, she is the one
In all this praise she still humble
Nothing goes to her head, nothing inflates her ego
She tells them she is blessed to have YOU
Such an amazing man to have as a best friend and a lover
Unfortunately...old habits die hard
And you...such an amazing man have decided you can't be with such a rare woman
You...just can't
So after a few months...maybe even a year or so...you do something unimaginable
You cut her deep
The pieces of her heart she gave you mean nothing now
And there is no explanation as to why...but there are excuses...lots and lots of excuses
This woman hears you, sees you, knows you
And all you can do is offer up excuses
So with all her strength...all her soul...all her fire...she walks away
Having learned another lesson
Having collected more secrets
Having become MORE aware of who she is
In the quietness she may shed a few tears
Not because you are no longer there
Not because you hurt her for no reason at all
But because she showed you her rarity and you still abused such beauty
She will not cry long though
She will carry on as you fade from her memory
As you become somebody she no longer flinches about
And one day, when she can barely remember your face...
She come across the secrets she has of you
She will smile a wicked little smile at the thought of letting them loose
But she won't
Lucky for you, she isn't made like that
She will take these secrets, put them in a jar like fireflies, label it with your name and put you on the shelf
With the others
Her collection isn't many at all
But what she does have is intense
She will look at them all with fuzzy memories and then close and lock the door again
Only to return there if she has more secrets to put on the shelf
For she doesn't need to linger and revel over them
She doesn't care to go through the details of such people anymore
She has a fire to keep lit
And no matter how many try to stomp it out, it won't go out
She is a rare woman
And when she finds the one man who will cherish, love and appreciate her rarity,
there will no longer be a need to store the secrets of the past men
She will burn them all and you will just be sitting there...
With your puddle that you ditched her for
Rare is the woman who knows a mans secrets and doesn't use them against him, even when he hurts her
and chooses to be with someone as deep and rare as a puddle on a rainy day.
copyrighted AMA 2014
She has those secrets you dare not share with anyone
But you shared it with her
Told her your fears, your joys, everything
Trusted her with a piece of your soul
As you should have
She is the one who would never betray you
The one who would stand by you in the darkest nights and brightest days
She protected you from yourself
You gave her things you've never given anyone else before
Made her apart of you in a subtle but intense way
She never did you wrong
Never held anything you said in trust over you
She took those things in her hands and locked them away for safe keeping
Not a word shall be uttered
Not a regret made
The only one with the key is you and her
And she would not use her's unless you asked her to do so
Oh the power she has with such secrets
The things she could do to you
The worlds she could destroy with a whisper
But she does not
It doesn't even cross her mind to do such evil
Because she is a rare woman indeed
Not a second place, but a first and only woman
You know someone like her only comes around once in this life
This realization makes you grab ahold of her and adore her with all your being
And she...
She makes you feel like the only man she will ever care about so deeply
Makes you feel like the King of her world, every single day
Everyone knows you got the best
Everyone tells you, she is the one
In all this praise she still humble
Nothing goes to her head, nothing inflates her ego
She tells them she is blessed to have YOU
Such an amazing man to have as a best friend and a lover
Unfortunately...old habits die hard
And you...such an amazing man have decided you can't be with such a rare woman
You...just can't
So after a few months...maybe even a year or so...you do something unimaginable
You cut her deep
The pieces of her heart she gave you mean nothing now
And there is no explanation as to why...but there are excuses...lots and lots of excuses
This woman hears you, sees you, knows you
And all you can do is offer up excuses
So with all her strength...all her soul...all her fire...she walks away
Having learned another lesson
Having collected more secrets
Having become MORE aware of who she is
In the quietness she may shed a few tears
Not because you are no longer there
Not because you hurt her for no reason at all
But because she showed you her rarity and you still abused such beauty
She will not cry long though
She will carry on as you fade from her memory
As you become somebody she no longer flinches about
And one day, when she can barely remember your face...
She come across the secrets she has of you
She will smile a wicked little smile at the thought of letting them loose
But she won't
Lucky for you, she isn't made like that
She will take these secrets, put them in a jar like fireflies, label it with your name and put you on the shelf
With the others
Her collection isn't many at all
But what she does have is intense
She will look at them all with fuzzy memories and then close and lock the door again
Only to return there if she has more secrets to put on the shelf
For she doesn't need to linger and revel over them
She doesn't care to go through the details of such people anymore
She has a fire to keep lit
And no matter how many try to stomp it out, it won't go out
She is a rare woman
And when she finds the one man who will cherish, love and appreciate her rarity,
there will no longer be a need to store the secrets of the past men
She will burn them all and you will just be sitting there...
With your puddle that you ditched her for
Rare is the woman who knows a mans secrets and doesn't use them against him, even when he hurts her
and chooses to be with someone as deep and rare as a puddle on a rainy day.
copyrighted AMA 2014
Nov 21, 2013
Live and Let Eat
I am so very tired of people passing along scare tactics involving food. Stop trying to scare me into eating healthy! Yes, we all know chicken nuggets from McD's are evil. We all know it's probably some weird thing they do with chicken to make the shapes. But seriously...most of us have been eating them since we were kids and guess what...we are still here! In fact, we are SO ALIVE AFTER EATING THEM, some of you are ranting about how unhealthy and evil they are! Would you look at that pot and kettle...they match very well don't you think :P
It's getting out of hand really. People are losing common sense when it comes to the logic of food and the processes it goes through to get to our mouths. Yes, wash all your fruits and veggies, even if they come in "pre washed" packages. That's just common sense! But please, stop telling me all the evil chemicals they MIGHT be using to clean and colorize my food. There is no need to show me cows being slaughtered to try and convince me to not eat meat or eat free range products. Because if you're like me, it won't affect you AT ALL. I'm not sorry when i tell all you scarey food truths people, I don't give a fuck! There is no amount of horrible animal slaughtering videos, weird meat before and after pics, or insane detailed listings of what's really in my cereal that will stop me from eating what i want to eat. Maybe that was harsh but it's reality.
I am the same person who would own a mini pig as a pet and call it bacon and tell it how "yummy" it's relatives are AND STILL love it all the same with no shame or remorse! And i wouldn't dream of eating it! Is that wrong? Did I hit a nerve of humor or anger there? If you even smiled at that thought, you can't judge me, period.
I just saw another food scare thing go around on someone's FB about baby carrots being parts of unused adult carrots that weren't the best in the bunch and mutated together to make them baby form and intense food coloring to make them look bright orange and delicious. Seriously? It's easy to believe these half true and half false stories. But instead of believing it instantly, you should do your research which is generally a Google search away. Oh look what i found http://www.snopes.com/food/tainted/carrots.asp How odd this information only took me 3 minutes to get and share. Oh the wonders of the interwebs! *eye roll* As i said before, duh, wash your fruits and veggies and you will be fine! Hell you can even go to one of those fancy "all natural tips" sites and find natural ways to wash them if faucet water is just too scary to deal with.
Don't get me started on "natural" products either! Hey if that's your thing, by all means, do you. But stop trying to scare me into eating your "natural" tomatoes versus my store bought ones.
Hey, i'm all for Farmer's Markets and eating healthy and not running to fast food heavens every day. I am all for eat what you love, however you love to eat it. Food is good. Food is awesome. But like with everything else, food needs to be done in moderation. Eating a Big Mac every day is just downright stupid. Especially if you find yourself having health issues. Don't blame McD's for your stupidity. Blame yourself! You went there and bought it and ate it...repeatedly. WE ALL KNOW the dynamics of food and how some can kill you faster and others can make you live longer. We all know what to do, to live better. Just because you don't eat meat or you eat gluten free products doesn't make you a superior human being. It doesn't make you a healthier one (in some cases) either (studies have proven this, don't jump on me about this). But to honestly go on and on about how bad bacon, cheese, cake, caged chicken etc. is, is just annoying and pointless. You can't save everyone from themselves. You can't save all the animals either. Don't worry about anyone but yourself and your kids (if you have any) when it comes to your food. Just as dog and insects is a fancy meal in some countries, cows and chickens are daily meals here in the USA. But most of you wouldn't go over to those other countries and dare shame them for eating a Grasshopper now would you? Exactly.
Food wasn't meant for us to be gluttons with. It was meant to nourish us so we can go about our lives happy and not dying so fast. What i put in my mouth (HA) is my own business. What you put in yours is your own business. I really appreciate those of you who keep your diet ideals to yourself and don't put your agenda on the rest of us. I wish more people were like that. Hell, I eat giant burgers right in front of my vegan friend while she has tofu and weeds and guess what, we couldn't care less! And when she splurges and has a piece of my real awesome cheesecake ice cream, I don't give her shit about it. Why should i?
Now, i'm off to have an Egg Nog shake with my Bacon Burger! GOOD EATS!
PS...For the record, i have a fairly healthy diet and i eat my fruits and veggies regularly. So don't think I'm some super fat chick being angry because i keep getting shamed for my weight or something like that. Nope, that's not me. I am just a lover of food no matter how it's made.
It's getting out of hand really. People are losing common sense when it comes to the logic of food and the processes it goes through to get to our mouths. Yes, wash all your fruits and veggies, even if they come in "pre washed" packages. That's just common sense! But please, stop telling me all the evil chemicals they MIGHT be using to clean and colorize my food. There is no need to show me cows being slaughtered to try and convince me to not eat meat or eat free range products. Because if you're like me, it won't affect you AT ALL. I'm not sorry when i tell all you scarey food truths people, I don't give a fuck! There is no amount of horrible animal slaughtering videos, weird meat before and after pics, or insane detailed listings of what's really in my cereal that will stop me from eating what i want to eat. Maybe that was harsh but it's reality.
I am the same person who would own a mini pig as a pet and call it bacon and tell it how "yummy" it's relatives are AND STILL love it all the same with no shame or remorse! And i wouldn't dream of eating it! Is that wrong? Did I hit a nerve of humor or anger there? If you even smiled at that thought, you can't judge me, period.
I just saw another food scare thing go around on someone's FB about baby carrots being parts of unused adult carrots that weren't the best in the bunch and mutated together to make them baby form and intense food coloring to make them look bright orange and delicious. Seriously? It's easy to believe these half true and half false stories. But instead of believing it instantly, you should do your research which is generally a Google search away. Oh look what i found http://www.snopes.com/food/tainted/carrots.asp How odd this information only took me 3 minutes to get and share. Oh the wonders of the interwebs! *eye roll* As i said before, duh, wash your fruits and veggies and you will be fine! Hell you can even go to one of those fancy "all natural tips" sites and find natural ways to wash them if faucet water is just too scary to deal with.
Don't get me started on "natural" products either! Hey if that's your thing, by all means, do you. But stop trying to scare me into eating your "natural" tomatoes versus my store bought ones.
Hey, i'm all for Farmer's Markets and eating healthy and not running to fast food heavens every day. I am all for eat what you love, however you love to eat it. Food is good. Food is awesome. But like with everything else, food needs to be done in moderation. Eating a Big Mac every day is just downright stupid. Especially if you find yourself having health issues. Don't blame McD's for your stupidity. Blame yourself! You went there and bought it and ate it...repeatedly. WE ALL KNOW the dynamics of food and how some can kill you faster and others can make you live longer. We all know what to do, to live better. Just because you don't eat meat or you eat gluten free products doesn't make you a superior human being. It doesn't make you a healthier one (in some cases) either (studies have proven this, don't jump on me about this). But to honestly go on and on about how bad bacon, cheese, cake, caged chicken etc. is, is just annoying and pointless. You can't save everyone from themselves. You can't save all the animals either. Don't worry about anyone but yourself and your kids (if you have any) when it comes to your food. Just as dog and insects is a fancy meal in some countries, cows and chickens are daily meals here in the USA. But most of you wouldn't go over to those other countries and dare shame them for eating a Grasshopper now would you? Exactly.
Food wasn't meant for us to be gluttons with. It was meant to nourish us so we can go about our lives happy and not dying so fast. What i put in my mouth (HA) is my own business. What you put in yours is your own business. I really appreciate those of you who keep your diet ideals to yourself and don't put your agenda on the rest of us. I wish more people were like that. Hell, I eat giant burgers right in front of my vegan friend while she has tofu and weeds and guess what, we couldn't care less! And when she splurges and has a piece of my real awesome cheesecake ice cream, I don't give her shit about it. Why should i?
Now, i'm off to have an Egg Nog shake with my Bacon Burger! GOOD EATS!
PS...For the record, i have a fairly healthy diet and i eat my fruits and veggies regularly. So don't think I'm some super fat chick being angry because i keep getting shamed for my weight or something like that. Nope, that's not me. I am just a lover of food no matter how it's made.
Sep 24, 2013
Give Respect to Get Respect
Those of us who work with the public, whether it be in retail, food industry, transportation, help desk, hospitality etc. deserve respect from you...the public at all times. In a way we are like the nurses of the working world. Do A LOT of the leg work and our superiors get all the credit, yet we still keep plugging along (i'm not implying we save people's lives...well some do but yeah, don't get all technical with me about the nurses comparison, ok, cool.) Completely unsung heros in your every day life. Just take a moment and think about all of the people you ask to do something for you and they do it with no issues and thank you for visiting their place of work. I mean think about how many times you go to Starbucks or similar place every week. And think about that person who knows who you are, always gives you a smile and amazing service and doesn't ask for anything in return...ever.
Yeah.
No matter where you encounter a Customer Service representative, you do it almost without thinking about all that we endure on a daily and sometimes hourly basis. And to those of you who DO understand what we go through, THANK YOU! Because we definitely don't do it for the money!
I can't speak for all CSR's but I can say this...to some degree we all enjoy working with the public. No matter how utterly mind numbing, head banging against the wall annoying and stressful it is, we do enjoy it on some level. I say you have to be a bit insane to willingly work with the public. Because in and of itself the definition of insanity (paraphrasing) is doing something repeatedly hoping for a different outcome each time. We go to work, smile, say hello/welcome, answer your questions, help you in any way we can and thank you for abusing us AND to come do it again ANYTIME! Who willingly does that? The Customer Service Rep does!
Your title might be barista, bank teller, housekeeper, front desk, administrator, help desk agent, flight attendant, policy representative, sales associate, cashier, waiter/waitress, police officer, security, fireman, radio host, bartender, concierge and the list goes on and on! No matter what the title is, you serve the public. We go through all the same issues with all the same annoying people together. We have really bad days and we have really good ones, but mostly we have just "meh" days. Thankful they are over, not completely looking forward to the next one but still plug along.
What is my whole point in all this? My point is to show you the people you take for granted and demand things from every single day, exactly how you want it, when you want it and NOW. Some of them will save your life but yet, some of you will even fight against that. Hell...let me back up...any of us could save your life! There are procedures in place at public places that all workers must train for, in case of emergencies. So that "little girl" you think can't take your order right or the guy who can't make your coffee exactly the same every time or the "jerk" who tells you to turn your cell phone off at the start of a flight or the "all you are is a secretary" who can't answer you right away due to all the phones ringing...could very well save your life if something goes down and you are too caught up in your own little world to notice your life is in danger. We are trained to keep calm in the face of danger and to make sure YOU are safe...not just us, but YOU. We sign a piece of paper saying we will put your lives ahead of our own. We do that for a job that doesn't pay us nearly enough and for rude, disrespectful, arrogant people who don't know how to treat a fellow human being.
I am not talking about all customers, clients, guests etc. Just the rude ones...you know who they are, you might be one of them.
I get very upset when people don't respect those of us who serve the public. I don't care if we are just a cashier or flying a got damn plane, there is NO NEED to be rude to us! I don't care if you had a bad day and want your fancy coffee super hot and get it at average heat...there is no need to talk down to us. No need to call us foul names. No need to belittle what we do. No need to expect miracles when you don't deserve them. Throwing a fit, making a scene and acting like a 5 year old doesn't make YOU look any better, nor does it make US want to help you any more. All it does it make you look like a Class A jackass. It also makes US more inclined to stress which leads to bad habits, which could lead to serious medical issues.
A quick story and then I am done. At one of my former jobs, a customer insisted she "borrow" a couple of my associates to help her to her car. After explaining to her I could call security and they would be more than happy to help her, she demanded I do it because she spend all this money and bla bla bla. I let her rant and rave and repeated myself about security. She then demanded to see the Supervisor. Well...I was the Supervisor, so of course she didn't like that bit of news haha She walked over to a few of my associates and tried to convince them to help her to her car. They all knew we didn't do this service, so they all declined. She stomped around, telling other customers how rude we were and I just giggled to myself because the woman looked ridiculous! I had one of associates call security to help her with her bags...she was getting out of my store one way or another. When they showed up she thought she was going to be removed from the store due to her antics. I explained to her how the lovely gentlemen were going to help her to her car. She insisted on having my boss' number, which i supplied to her and then told me I should be fired for my behavior. I told her to have a great holiday!
The woman didn't return for months. She did however give my boss an earful about how she was treated. My boss talked to me of course and unfortunately took the customer's side, but that didn't surprise me. I got written up and life went on. When the woman did return to my store, she was shocked to still see me working there. Even more so, still as a Supervisor. She of course ignored me and got help from another perosn haha Fast forward to early this year, i am at a new company and still dealing with crazy people just on a larger scale. The woman who demanded i be fired, comes into my store and is just all smiles and life is beautiful, towards me. She says I'm so lovely to help her and all that. I just smile and keep it pushing. But every single time she comes in, she asks "where do I know you from?" and I tell her "i don't know, but people ask me that all that time, I have one of those faces i think." We laugh and she spends money on things she doesn't need and i tell her to have a good day. She still doesn't remember where she knows me from. And i will never remind her. I personally can't stand her...she expects to be catered to all the time and I don't have any time to do that.
The moral of the story...of the post? You can be rude to us, you can call us out of our names, you can throw all the tantrums you want, but it doesn't make you better for doing so. And try as it might, it doesn't break all of us down. We stand tall, we keep fighting the good fight and we keep serving the public with a smile. Why? Like I said, we are a little bit crazy. If we snap on you, put you in your place, stop you mid tantrum explaining to you why you need to act like an adult and treat people like human beings don't you dare act like we are in the wrong, because YOU started this, not us. We don't ask for much...just some respect, do that and we can make every single day awesome for you.
*jumps off soapbox like a ninja*
Yeah.
No matter where you encounter a Customer Service representative, you do it almost without thinking about all that we endure on a daily and sometimes hourly basis. And to those of you who DO understand what we go through, THANK YOU! Because we definitely don't do it for the money!
I can't speak for all CSR's but I can say this...to some degree we all enjoy working with the public. No matter how utterly mind numbing, head banging against the wall annoying and stressful it is, we do enjoy it on some level. I say you have to be a bit insane to willingly work with the public. Because in and of itself the definition of insanity (paraphrasing) is doing something repeatedly hoping for a different outcome each time. We go to work, smile, say hello/welcome, answer your questions, help you in any way we can and thank you for abusing us AND to come do it again ANYTIME! Who willingly does that? The Customer Service Rep does!
Your title might be barista, bank teller, housekeeper, front desk, administrator, help desk agent, flight attendant, policy representative, sales associate, cashier, waiter/waitress, police officer, security, fireman, radio host, bartender, concierge and the list goes on and on! No matter what the title is, you serve the public. We go through all the same issues with all the same annoying people together. We have really bad days and we have really good ones, but mostly we have just "meh" days. Thankful they are over, not completely looking forward to the next one but still plug along.
What is my whole point in all this? My point is to show you the people you take for granted and demand things from every single day, exactly how you want it, when you want it and NOW. Some of them will save your life but yet, some of you will even fight against that. Hell...let me back up...any of us could save your life! There are procedures in place at public places that all workers must train for, in case of emergencies. So that "little girl" you think can't take your order right or the guy who can't make your coffee exactly the same every time or the "jerk" who tells you to turn your cell phone off at the start of a flight or the "all you are is a secretary" who can't answer you right away due to all the phones ringing...could very well save your life if something goes down and you are too caught up in your own little world to notice your life is in danger. We are trained to keep calm in the face of danger and to make sure YOU are safe...not just us, but YOU. We sign a piece of paper saying we will put your lives ahead of our own. We do that for a job that doesn't pay us nearly enough and for rude, disrespectful, arrogant people who don't know how to treat a fellow human being.
I am not talking about all customers, clients, guests etc. Just the rude ones...you know who they are, you might be one of them.
I get very upset when people don't respect those of us who serve the public. I don't care if we are just a cashier or flying a got damn plane, there is NO NEED to be rude to us! I don't care if you had a bad day and want your fancy coffee super hot and get it at average heat...there is no need to talk down to us. No need to call us foul names. No need to belittle what we do. No need to expect miracles when you don't deserve them. Throwing a fit, making a scene and acting like a 5 year old doesn't make YOU look any better, nor does it make US want to help you any more. All it does it make you look like a Class A jackass. It also makes US more inclined to stress which leads to bad habits, which could lead to serious medical issues.
A quick story and then I am done. At one of my former jobs, a customer insisted she "borrow" a couple of my associates to help her to her car. After explaining to her I could call security and they would be more than happy to help her, she demanded I do it because she spend all this money and bla bla bla. I let her rant and rave and repeated myself about security. She then demanded to see the Supervisor. Well...I was the Supervisor, so of course she didn't like that bit of news haha She walked over to a few of my associates and tried to convince them to help her to her car. They all knew we didn't do this service, so they all declined. She stomped around, telling other customers how rude we were and I just giggled to myself because the woman looked ridiculous! I had one of associates call security to help her with her bags...she was getting out of my store one way or another. When they showed up she thought she was going to be removed from the store due to her antics. I explained to her how the lovely gentlemen were going to help her to her car. She insisted on having my boss' number, which i supplied to her and then told me I should be fired for my behavior. I told her to have a great holiday!
The woman didn't return for months. She did however give my boss an earful about how she was treated. My boss talked to me of course and unfortunately took the customer's side, but that didn't surprise me. I got written up and life went on. When the woman did return to my store, she was shocked to still see me working there. Even more so, still as a Supervisor. She of course ignored me and got help from another perosn haha Fast forward to early this year, i am at a new company and still dealing with crazy people just on a larger scale. The woman who demanded i be fired, comes into my store and is just all smiles and life is beautiful, towards me. She says I'm so lovely to help her and all that. I just smile and keep it pushing. But every single time she comes in, she asks "where do I know you from?" and I tell her "i don't know, but people ask me that all that time, I have one of those faces i think." We laugh and she spends money on things she doesn't need and i tell her to have a good day. She still doesn't remember where she knows me from. And i will never remind her. I personally can't stand her...she expects to be catered to all the time and I don't have any time to do that.
The moral of the story...of the post? You can be rude to us, you can call us out of our names, you can throw all the tantrums you want, but it doesn't make you better for doing so. And try as it might, it doesn't break all of us down. We stand tall, we keep fighting the good fight and we keep serving the public with a smile. Why? Like I said, we are a little bit crazy. If we snap on you, put you in your place, stop you mid tantrum explaining to you why you need to act like an adult and treat people like human beings don't you dare act like we are in the wrong, because YOU started this, not us. We don't ask for much...just some respect, do that and we can make every single day awesome for you.
*jumps off soapbox like a ninja*
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