Blinders Off

We get so caught up in our own lives we don't see the signs
We are so plugged in and opinionated about everything around us we forget whats in front of us.
We like, share, snap, share, share, share and share some more
Sometimes we all agree and other times we don't agree at all
So we just keep plugging along with attention spans of goldfish
Thinking because some "lol" or put a happy emoji at the end of statement they are fine
But they are not fine actually
They are just going through life, the motions to keep everyone else comfortable
Because people get uncomfortable when people actually stop and feel something real
When the selfies stop
When the emojis' stop
When the likes and constant need for acceptance stops
What happens??
We actually fucking feel something and then we make people uncomfortable
People get all kinds of bent out of shape when you actually feel something besides happiness
When you stop smiling, people get scared
Because you are the pillar of smiling and making jokes
You are the pillar of strength
You are the pillar of comfort and security when shit goes down
That's what you are
You are the rock
And nothing breaks the rock
The rock is always there...solid...like a rock
There to hold you down when shit gets rough
There to support you
There to keep you on solid ground
That's the rock
But what happens when the rock has a crack?
Does anybody notice it?
Or are we just so wrapped up in our own lives to even see it?
Everybody goes to the rock for support but who supports the rock?

We get so caught up in our own lives and goals and jobs we miss the signs, signals and cries for help. Until, it's too late. Because nobody noticed until the screams got louder. But by then sometimes...it's too late.

Having been apart of many moments when it's in that "too late" zone with friends and loved ones of mine, over the years i've become super sensitive to these things. When people's moods shift, i can tell. When something just "isn't right", i somehow can sense it and all my alarms go off. I do whatever i can to make sure the person knows i am there for them. Too many times have i heard "nobody said anything to me until now...only you." I'm not trying to brag at all. What i am saying is...take a moment and pay attention to your friends, your people, your loved ones. We all are going through shit but not all of us can carry it on our own for so long. The ones who take care of everyone else tend to be the quietest in regards to how they are really doing. Check in with them. You might be the one person who asks how they are doing...i mean truly ask. And you might be the one person that can help them when they don't know how to ask for it. Because when you're a rock for everyone else, you tend to ignore your own issues until something makes them hit the surface.

We are all busy. But instead of sharing another stupid thing someone else shared, check in on that friend of yours. Smiling and laughing doesn't mean they aren't hurting or don't need help.