This will be my one statement about the whole MLK Jr. Anniversary today.
I am so very thankful that not just my parents and grandparents but YOUR PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS believed in The Dream, enough to make sure WE (you and me sitting right here reading this) lived a life NOT SEPARATED. NOT closed off from one another. NOT in fear, anger and hatred for others just because of our skin tone. I am so very PROUD that my grandparents thought well enough to move from Arkansas where my mom was born and head on over to California to have a better life for them and future me! Same with my family in Chicago, Georgia, Kansas, Texas, Arizona, Nevada etc. Not too many generations behind me, they knew it would be best for them to leave such small mindedness behind and make a better life and future for all of us.
Your family did the same thing. They choose to leave places and take root somewhere else for their dreams. They raised your parents and your parents raised you to not be so small minded and closed off from people. They taught you to love one another based on character and not color, creed or religion.
Look at your friend's list. You have a rainbow of people from all over as your friends! YOU BROKE THE CYCLE! You continue to do so every single day too! You are nice to people no matter what their background. You are respectful. You care for them. You love them. You teach them through your actions. You kill them with kindness even when they are rude and don't deserve such things. YOU are the living embodiment of King's Dream! YOU MY FRIEND! MY FAMILY! MY PEOPLE!! You further The Dream message with how you raise your kids. You teach them equality and love for all no matter WHO the person is. You teach them just as your parents taught you. YOU FUCKING ROCK THE DREAM!
I am so very very VERY proud (damn it, i'm tearing up now lol) to say my best friends are Hispanic, Japanese, Black, White, gay, straight, fat, skinny, short, tall, smart and even slightly stupid (haha). So very proud to be able to walk down the street head held high and get the respect I deserve and have earned. I am so very proud that every single fucking day, I know somehow, somewhere I silenced a stereotype! You do it too! Whether you know it or not, you do! And you should be just as proud!
It's still a long road ahead of us to make MORE of an impact than we already have. But we are going to keep doing it as long as we keep living and teaching others how to open then eyes, hearts and minds to what is truly right. But I believe with all my being, that we are on the right track! And I am so very fucking proud to be apart of it with you all!
*drops the mic*
Aug 28, 2013
Aug 15, 2013
The First Time
You know the feeling you get the first time you hear a song? How it washes over you and can either make you hate it or love it in 30 seconds?
The first time you hear a song, that is the purest feeling you will ever have about that song ever. After that, you might have the same feelings but it won't be as pure as the first time. Your feelings might change. It could become worse or grow on you. No matter what though...it will never feel the same ever again.
The thoughts that came to you while you listened may never happen again. What you related to, during the first listen, might disappear as you go deeper into the song the second time around.
I LOVE that feeling. The first listen for me is as amazing or horrible as any other "first time" experience. The chills up my spine. The hairs raising on my arms. The smile or frown that slowly creeps upon my face. That feeling of, "yes, give me more!" or "what the hell is this?" becomes stronger as the seconds click by. And when some song makes me want it to never end...well forget about it!
You could almost say, I get an insta-crush on music when it touches me, the way only music can.
When my friend introduced me to Tokimonsta "Go With It"...I got the biggest crush I've had in awhile. I instantly felt it caress all over me. It was like taking a first taste of your favorite wine or beer. The warm tingly feeling that arises from your toes to the top of your head! The overwhelming feeling to hug my friend came over me! I had to dive deeper to feed the beast, so to speak. So I looked Tokimonsta up and just had a field day listening to her tracks! I even told him, he created a Toki Monster hehehe I know cheesy but whatever! I was in music heaven :P
Sadly, there is so much garbage being churned out in the music industry, you either have to dig deep and way outside the box to find things of quality, or you go back into your library when music was good and never listen to the radio again. This is why I love NPR Music and my friend for constantly giving me new tunes to feed my soul. Love my dj friends as well who always give great tracks to download and make the days seem much better, no matter what mood I'm in.
I could go on and on about music for hours, maybe even days on end. But I won't bore you all any longer haha I will say though, I saw a twitter account about Sagittarius' that I now follow and it did say this..."ask a Sagittarius about a song they love, and you will learn very much about them." I find this to be true. At least about me that is. Anyone that has ever listened to music with me or gone to a show/concert with me knows, music is pretty much my first love that will never be replaced by any person...not even Thor. And I do LOVE me some Thor! :)
After you watch the video, definitely feel free to ask me what this song/video REALLY made me feel and I will be more than happy to tell you all about it!
Here is the official video for the Tokimonsta song!
The first time you hear a song, that is the purest feeling you will ever have about that song ever. After that, you might have the same feelings but it won't be as pure as the first time. Your feelings might change. It could become worse or grow on you. No matter what though...it will never feel the same ever again.
The thoughts that came to you while you listened may never happen again. What you related to, during the first listen, might disappear as you go deeper into the song the second time around.
I LOVE that feeling. The first listen for me is as amazing or horrible as any other "first time" experience. The chills up my spine. The hairs raising on my arms. The smile or frown that slowly creeps upon my face. That feeling of, "yes, give me more!" or "what the hell is this?" becomes stronger as the seconds click by. And when some song makes me want it to never end...well forget about it!
You could almost say, I get an insta-crush on music when it touches me, the way only music can.
When my friend introduced me to Tokimonsta "Go With It"...I got the biggest crush I've had in awhile. I instantly felt it caress all over me. It was like taking a first taste of your favorite wine or beer. The warm tingly feeling that arises from your toes to the top of your head! The overwhelming feeling to hug my friend came over me! I had to dive deeper to feed the beast, so to speak. So I looked Tokimonsta up and just had a field day listening to her tracks! I even told him, he created a Toki Monster hehehe I know cheesy but whatever! I was in music heaven :P
Sadly, there is so much garbage being churned out in the music industry, you either have to dig deep and way outside the box to find things of quality, or you go back into your library when music was good and never listen to the radio again. This is why I love NPR Music and my friend for constantly giving me new tunes to feed my soul. Love my dj friends as well who always give great tracks to download and make the days seem much better, no matter what mood I'm in.
I could go on and on about music for hours, maybe even days on end. But I won't bore you all any longer haha I will say though, I saw a twitter account about Sagittarius' that I now follow and it did say this..."ask a Sagittarius about a song they love, and you will learn very much about them." I find this to be true. At least about me that is. Anyone that has ever listened to music with me or gone to a show/concert with me knows, music is pretty much my first love that will never be replaced by any person...not even Thor. And I do LOVE me some Thor! :)
After you watch the video, definitely feel free to ask me what this song/video REALLY made me feel and I will be more than happy to tell you all about it!
Here is the official video for the Tokimonsta song!
Aug 4, 2013
Cream In My Coffee
So, I was going to write a long detailed post about dating outside of your race/culture. And how society still frowns on it. How I cheer just a wee bit louder when I see an interracial couple together, in love and not caring what others think. My heart skips a beat when I see a white man with a black woman. I get a little giddy at that sight. I'm fascinated when I see someone of Hispanic origin with an Asian partner. No matter what the combo is, I'm always fascinated about how they met, how their families feel about it and how they deal with the potential drama that people just want to bring into their lives.
I could go on about this for hours really. So fucking fascinating! I could talk about my first major crush on a boy at school who was white with freckles even! His name was Kurt LOL Yeah, good times!! I could talk about when i asked my mom how she would feel if i married a white boy. Her answer was simple and well put, "A good man, is a good man, no matter what his race is. As long as he is a good man to you, I don't care what he is." Oh mothers...always giving sage advice that sticks with us forever! Love them!
I could go on and on about people asking me "have you ever dated a black man?" because I guess they noticed my affinity for handsome white guys. And then them being shocked that I have and have no real issues dating black guys, I just don't meet many that I would date lol And then they want me to explain to them what is the differences and why i gravitate towards one and not the other (can you see my eyes rolling?). People want to know the details of my damn dating life for some reason. They don't "get it", whatever that means. Hell, I've done full on discussions with people about the differences. Then they want to know have I dated other cultures and I have to tell them yes, I've dated lots of other cultures and they all have a story of their own. But I don't put those experiences against their whole culture. That would be stupid and ignorant...alas people do it.
I could also talk about how I've been told by many people throughout my life, "you aren't like other black girls." (can you see my eyes roll?) Well, of course I'm not! I'm just ME. There is no one else like me and there never will be. So of course I'm not like other black girls...stop making a big deal about it already. OH and don't get me started on the "I've never been with a black woman before, what's it like?" guys! OH GOOD LAWD!! I always tell them, "Neither have I". Some get it but some don't and that just makes me sad for mankind in general lol Do I want to be someone's "first black woman" experience? Depends on the guy really. The ones that just have that freaky fantasy fetish deal about it, NOPE. The guy who just hasn't met a cool awesome black chick like myself and doesn't really care about it, sure why not. I don't want to be someone's experiment or thesis. No one wants that.
Look...i just talked about all that lol
Love is Love. Like is Like. Lust is Lust. What gets you going, is your own business. My crushes and lust objects have no color lines. My friends have no color lines. What attracts me to a person isn't just whats on the outside. Its definitely about their personality. The color of their skin or background is just another layer of them. Can we compare stories of our families and things, of course we can! I love doing that! Because somewhere there is always a common thread. Do I have high expectations for different cultures? Hhhmm yes, I do. I expect much more from a black man on a different level, than I do a white man. Not to say I don't have high standards for white men either...because I definitely do lol But it's all relative really. No matter who they are, like my mama said, he has to be a good man, period. If he isn't, i don't care how sexy he is, how much money he has or anything else. If he isn't a good man, there is no point in me thinking twice about him.
It would be nice to see, in my lifetime, people stop looking at me funny when I'm out with a white guy or some other guy who isn't black. It would be nice to be treated with respect all the time, when I'm with a black guy. It would be nice to not be judged on appearances, period. Do I think this will happen in my lifetime...probably not. But do I let it get me down and hide from the world the person I'm in love with and whom loves me? Hells no! Like I tell everyone with their own choices, that make them happy...OWN IT! You like it, I love it! Own what you love, like, makes you feel good! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Maybe one day, I will go into a much more detailed post about my preferences. Maybe, I will even do a podcast about it. Who knows. But it's definitely a topic I never get tired of talking/exploring/sharing. The world is full of amazing people, don't be afraid to mix things up.
I could go on about this for hours really. So fucking fascinating! I could talk about my first major crush on a boy at school who was white with freckles even! His name was Kurt LOL Yeah, good times!! I could talk about when i asked my mom how she would feel if i married a white boy. Her answer was simple and well put, "A good man, is a good man, no matter what his race is. As long as he is a good man to you, I don't care what he is." Oh mothers...always giving sage advice that sticks with us forever! Love them!
I could go on and on about people asking me "have you ever dated a black man?" because I guess they noticed my affinity for handsome white guys. And then them being shocked that I have and have no real issues dating black guys, I just don't meet many that I would date lol And then they want me to explain to them what is the differences and why i gravitate towards one and not the other (can you see my eyes rolling?). People want to know the details of my damn dating life for some reason. They don't "get it", whatever that means. Hell, I've done full on discussions with people about the differences. Then they want to know have I dated other cultures and I have to tell them yes, I've dated lots of other cultures and they all have a story of their own. But I don't put those experiences against their whole culture. That would be stupid and ignorant...alas people do it.
I could also talk about how I've been told by many people throughout my life, "you aren't like other black girls." (can you see my eyes roll?) Well, of course I'm not! I'm just ME. There is no one else like me and there never will be. So of course I'm not like other black girls...stop making a big deal about it already. OH and don't get me started on the "I've never been with a black woman before, what's it like?" guys! OH GOOD LAWD!! I always tell them, "Neither have I". Some get it but some don't and that just makes me sad for mankind in general lol Do I want to be someone's "first black woman" experience? Depends on the guy really. The ones that just have that freaky fantasy fetish deal about it, NOPE. The guy who just hasn't met a cool awesome black chick like myself and doesn't really care about it, sure why not. I don't want to be someone's experiment or thesis. No one wants that.
Look...i just talked about all that lol
Love is Love. Like is Like. Lust is Lust. What gets you going, is your own business. My crushes and lust objects have no color lines. My friends have no color lines. What attracts me to a person isn't just whats on the outside. Its definitely about their personality. The color of their skin or background is just another layer of them. Can we compare stories of our families and things, of course we can! I love doing that! Because somewhere there is always a common thread. Do I have high expectations for different cultures? Hhhmm yes, I do. I expect much more from a black man on a different level, than I do a white man. Not to say I don't have high standards for white men either...because I definitely do lol But it's all relative really. No matter who they are, like my mama said, he has to be a good man, period. If he isn't, i don't care how sexy he is, how much money he has or anything else. If he isn't a good man, there is no point in me thinking twice about him.
It would be nice to see, in my lifetime, people stop looking at me funny when I'm out with a white guy or some other guy who isn't black. It would be nice to be treated with respect all the time, when I'm with a black guy. It would be nice to not be judged on appearances, period. Do I think this will happen in my lifetime...probably not. But do I let it get me down and hide from the world the person I'm in love with and whom loves me? Hells no! Like I tell everyone with their own choices, that make them happy...OWN IT! You like it, I love it! Own what you love, like, makes you feel good! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
Maybe one day, I will go into a much more detailed post about my preferences. Maybe, I will even do a podcast about it. Who knows. But it's definitely a topic I never get tired of talking/exploring/sharing. The world is full of amazing people, don't be afraid to mix things up.
Jul 9, 2013
Random Razz Thoughts 1
These are seriously random thoughts that have been in my head the past few days that are too numerous to post on FB without annoying my friends and too long for Twitter. So here they are...enjoy!
(this might become a regular feature if the response is good)
- I want to have an old school summer party, in someone's backyard! Like how we use to do in the 70s and 80s! Invite all your friends, bring clothes you don't care about getting wet. Pull out the water balloons, super soakers, slip n' slide! Also need Kool-Aid, Watermelon, Hot Dogs and Hamburgers! Now since we are adults we gotta have the alcohol too! And an old school boombox to blast the tunes like Summer Time! I'm serious...this needs to happen! And don't forget the weird sprinkler sprayer and water hose!!
- Have any of you ladies ever had a "good boob day"??? I know good hair days exists but what about good boob days??? I think i had one the other day. The twins looked awesome in everything! I was so proud of them lol I've heard of guys having a "good dick day", so I would assume this ideal can apply to boobs too. In fact, i'm calling it...Women can have Good Boob Days! BOOM!
- Sometimes I don't know how to stop flirting with someone. And I feel stupid when I do it at times because I know I don't have to do it anymore (they are already hooked lol) But it just happens! HOW DO I TURN ALL THIS (AWESOMENESS) OFF??!!!
- Soulmates. Do you believe in them?? I'm not sure if I do in the romantical sense. I believe in soulmates when it comes to my best friends and family I'm really close too though. I think they are the people who come into our lives to make us better people along our path. Enrich our souls. We help one another and make things better when it gets really rough. Constant support system. Sometimes these people mean more to you than your actual family. You would sacrifice for them if you needed to, without a question. Yeah...i have some soulmates, they are badass awesome too. As for the romantic/lovey soulmates...not sure I've had one of those yet. And really, it's not all that necessary i think. Mainly because I want my significant other to also be my best friend and if he is to that level of best friendness that I believe to by my soulmate then he already has achieved that goal. I get a little weird when people say "she/he is my soulmate". Maybe i'm skeptical in that field of thought just because most people who say that, have only known the person for 2 months or less lol
- Robin Thicke. MMMMMMMMMMHHHHHHMMMMMMMMMM
- What do you do with underwear that doesn't fit right and you can't return it??? If someone has any suggestions, please let me know! I was thinking of giving them to GoodWill but is that allowed??? They are brand new so it should be ok right?? I don't know lol
- That Icona Pop song "I Don't Care" always puts me in a good mood! And NOW Robin Thicke did a sexy version of it! I got preggers watching the video. That's why I'm sharing it with you!
http://youtu.be/0xvZtSEgGyk
That's all for now folks! Do you want to see these kinds of posts again?? Let me know in the comments or message me! Thanx for reading!!!
(this might become a regular feature if the response is good)
- I want to have an old school summer party, in someone's backyard! Like how we use to do in the 70s and 80s! Invite all your friends, bring clothes you don't care about getting wet. Pull out the water balloons, super soakers, slip n' slide! Also need Kool-Aid, Watermelon, Hot Dogs and Hamburgers! Now since we are adults we gotta have the alcohol too! And an old school boombox to blast the tunes like Summer Time! I'm serious...this needs to happen! And don't forget the weird sprinkler sprayer and water hose!!
- Have any of you ladies ever had a "good boob day"??? I know good hair days exists but what about good boob days??? I think i had one the other day. The twins looked awesome in everything! I was so proud of them lol I've heard of guys having a "good dick day", so I would assume this ideal can apply to boobs too. In fact, i'm calling it...Women can have Good Boob Days! BOOM!
- Sometimes I don't know how to stop flirting with someone. And I feel stupid when I do it at times because I know I don't have to do it anymore (they are already hooked lol) But it just happens! HOW DO I TURN ALL THIS (AWESOMENESS) OFF??!!!
- Soulmates. Do you believe in them?? I'm not sure if I do in the romantical sense. I believe in soulmates when it comes to my best friends and family I'm really close too though. I think they are the people who come into our lives to make us better people along our path. Enrich our souls. We help one another and make things better when it gets really rough. Constant support system. Sometimes these people mean more to you than your actual family. You would sacrifice for them if you needed to, without a question. Yeah...i have some soulmates, they are badass awesome too. As for the romantic/lovey soulmates...not sure I've had one of those yet. And really, it's not all that necessary i think. Mainly because I want my significant other to also be my best friend and if he is to that level of best friendness that I believe to by my soulmate then he already has achieved that goal. I get a little weird when people say "she/he is my soulmate". Maybe i'm skeptical in that field of thought just because most people who say that, have only known the person for 2 months or less lol
- Robin Thicke. MMMMMMMMMMHHHHHHMMMMMMMMMM
- What do you do with underwear that doesn't fit right and you can't return it??? If someone has any suggestions, please let me know! I was thinking of giving them to GoodWill but is that allowed??? They are brand new so it should be ok right?? I don't know lol
- That Icona Pop song "I Don't Care" always puts me in a good mood! And NOW Robin Thicke did a sexy version of it! I got preggers watching the video. That's why I'm sharing it with you!
http://youtu.be/0xvZtSEgGyk
That's all for now folks! Do you want to see these kinds of posts again?? Let me know in the comments or message me! Thanx for reading!!!
Jun 6, 2013
The Strong and The Good
Being the caring person that I am, when my friends and family start to go through things I can sometimes take on their feelings. Most times because I've been in that same situation. I'm not just sympathetic but empathetic. Which if you know and understand the difference, then you know empathy can bring up a host of feelings and emotions...resolved and unresolved. And if you are a thinker, then you know you will think about these things, analyze and try to understand the "why" of it all.
Some things are happening to good, strong people in my life right now. So, I started to wonder, why do bad/scary things happen to these good people?? Why do the good suffer? Without going too deep into this train of thought...there are tons of conversations I've had involving this thinking and it's always fun but really long and drawn out...I'm not in the mood for that right now haha
The quickest explanation I could come up with was this...
Bad things happen to good people to show their strength and be an inspiration to those around them.
Many things have happened to me in my short lifetime and I consider myself a pretty good person overall. Each thing has put me out there for others to see, witness and judge. Each situation has allowed me to not only learn and become stronger in my personal beliefs but also be a beacon of inspiration and courage to others who may not be as prepared when these things happen to them. I have been able to comfort and help those who are going through events and need support. I have been able to be there for them deeply when they thought they were all alone. I have been able to be that voice of optimism and reason. Without my experiences I wouldn't be able to be so supportive.
Some people go through things and crumble under the pressure. Never learning from their mistakes. Never being able to rise above the darkness. While others take those experiences, no matter how brutal they are and use it to become stronger in their own lives as well as inspire others. Even if someone doesn't come out alive from their situation...a good, strong person who fought till the bitter end is still an inspiration, long after they are gone. Their memory will hold strong in the hearts of those who loved them. Likewise, the person who keeps getting knocked down...struggles seem to keep coming their way...life just deals them shitty cards all at once...YET they still keep pushing forward, rising above and finding the courage to keep smiling and loving life...those people are constant reminders of strength, courage, heart and goodness. They keep inspiring no matter where they are or what is going on around them. They might not even know it, but they are someone's beacon of light and hope.
So I guess my point in all of this is, yeah, life can suck ass so much. Bad things happen to good people daily. But it's how that person handles the situation, is what counts most. They may not keep pushing forward for anyone else but themselves but they should know, in some way they are inspiring and helping someone else realize their courage as well. When bad things happen, our true selves show through. Keep your head up and know there is always someone out there ready to be your beacon of light if you can't summon your own.
Inspired by my dear friend Mo...a very wicked cool, inspiring and good guy!
Some things are happening to good, strong people in my life right now. So, I started to wonder, why do bad/scary things happen to these good people?? Why do the good suffer? Without going too deep into this train of thought...there are tons of conversations I've had involving this thinking and it's always fun but really long and drawn out...I'm not in the mood for that right now haha
The quickest explanation I could come up with was this...
Bad things happen to good people to show their strength and be an inspiration to those around them.
Many things have happened to me in my short lifetime and I consider myself a pretty good person overall. Each thing has put me out there for others to see, witness and judge. Each situation has allowed me to not only learn and become stronger in my personal beliefs but also be a beacon of inspiration and courage to others who may not be as prepared when these things happen to them. I have been able to comfort and help those who are going through events and need support. I have been able to be there for them deeply when they thought they were all alone. I have been able to be that voice of optimism and reason. Without my experiences I wouldn't be able to be so supportive.
Some people go through things and crumble under the pressure. Never learning from their mistakes. Never being able to rise above the darkness. While others take those experiences, no matter how brutal they are and use it to become stronger in their own lives as well as inspire others. Even if someone doesn't come out alive from their situation...a good, strong person who fought till the bitter end is still an inspiration, long after they are gone. Their memory will hold strong in the hearts of those who loved them. Likewise, the person who keeps getting knocked down...struggles seem to keep coming their way...life just deals them shitty cards all at once...YET they still keep pushing forward, rising above and finding the courage to keep smiling and loving life...those people are constant reminders of strength, courage, heart and goodness. They keep inspiring no matter where they are or what is going on around them. They might not even know it, but they are someone's beacon of light and hope.
So I guess my point in all of this is, yeah, life can suck ass so much. Bad things happen to good people daily. But it's how that person handles the situation, is what counts most. They may not keep pushing forward for anyone else but themselves but they should know, in some way they are inspiring and helping someone else realize their courage as well. When bad things happen, our true selves show through. Keep your head up and know there is always someone out there ready to be your beacon of light if you can't summon your own.
Inspired by my dear friend Mo...a very wicked cool, inspiring and good guy!
May 24, 2013
Water...Leave It Alone!
This is just something I have to get off my chest.
Stop trying to spice up my water with liquid sugar! What the hell is wrong with manufacturers always trying to make water cool? Mio, Crystal Light and all those other "flavor adding" little packets/bottles etc of a million flavors trying to make it seem cool to drink flavored water. Is water so boring that you have to add some flavor to it to keep yourself hydrated? Seriously? It's melted down sugar with artificial flavorings! Yeah, lets put something unhealthy in something healthy to make ourselves deal with the evils that is WATER and all of it's lack of flavor.
You want to make water more exciting? Try tea. It's 100 times more natural than any of those flavor packets that look oh so pretty when dropping into your pure water and make you feel like you aren't drinking water at all. We all know, NO ONE puts just one squirt in there. You overload it with the flavor so its down right sugary then you might as well be drinking Kool - Aid! Which probably is more healthy than those things. AND can we just be honest here, Kool - Aid is much cooler and less misleading than those other new modern flavor "enhancers". KA never made you think it was just making water better. Nope. It said, want an easy and cheap way to make your kids happy? Here, try KA, it has sugar, millions of flavors and is easy to do. BOOM!
Maybe it's because I LOVE WATER. In all its pure, unflavored glory! I don't need "coconut" added to it either to make me drink it. OH can we stop with all this "Coconut Water" mess too? This isn't NEW! This is barely original...wait, its not original. You aren't doing anything to make your water BETTER! There is no way to make water "more hydrating and healthy for you" people!! NO WAY! The only way to make water MORE anything is to just drink MORE OF IT! You want the added benefits of coconut? Go buy a coconut and drink the milk inside and eat the meat...there, you got the benefits of coconut! I LOVE COCONUTS! I whack those things open and eat them all summer long! It has NEVER crossed my mind to water down the coconut milk with water to make it "healthier". Are you serious? Let's just think about this for a moment shall we?
(Thinking)
What is coconut water? It's watered down coconut milk. But doesn't coconut milk look chalky and weird? Why yes, it does. So how does it look less cloudy in my awesome bottle? Because it's watered down hun. Ooohhhhh. Yep. Do you want to make REAL coconut water? This is what you do...buy a coconut, drill two holes in it, drain the coconut milk, cut the coconut in half, cut out the coconut meat (becareful, it can be tricky), shred/grade it like cheese, put it in cheesecloth, tie it tight and squeeze squeeze squeeze all the juice out of it as much as you can. You can even put over a cup, secure with a rubber band and let it drain overnight in the fridge. Once you've gotten all the liquid out, take a half of cup of water, mix it in the coconut milk and drink. That is the real deal...no sugars, additives, flavors or anything unnatural in it. You can't get more NATURAL than that! You don't lose any of the natural goodness either.
All of these fancy "enhanced waters" add things to water to supposedly make it better. You can't make water better, period. Sure, don't get me wrong, i love me some Vitamin Water because its a water based, flavored beverage with vitamins and electrolytes in it that i need to keep me hydrated when I'm seriously lacking in the water department. But do i think it's water? No. Do i use it as a replacement for water? No. I treat it like an extra, not a replacement. Just like athletes don't pretend Gatorade is a water replacement. It's an extra. Many athletes drink water when they aren't training and in their everyday lives.
My point in all this? Stop trying to make water something it doesn't need or want to be. Just drink it. I hear so many people say they don't like water, and that makes me sad. Because your body LOVES WATER. It NEEDS water. All these other things you are drinking are only making it MORE thirsty. You will feel such a change if you just add more water to your life and body. But hey, do what you want. Drink what you want. Just know, water doesn't need to be made better, it just needs to be drank.
Stop trying to spice up my water with liquid sugar! What the hell is wrong with manufacturers always trying to make water cool? Mio, Crystal Light and all those other "flavor adding" little packets/bottles etc of a million flavors trying to make it seem cool to drink flavored water. Is water so boring that you have to add some flavor to it to keep yourself hydrated? Seriously? It's melted down sugar with artificial flavorings! Yeah, lets put something unhealthy in something healthy to make ourselves deal with the evils that is WATER and all of it's lack of flavor.
You want to make water more exciting? Try tea. It's 100 times more natural than any of those flavor packets that look oh so pretty when dropping into your pure water and make you feel like you aren't drinking water at all. We all know, NO ONE puts just one squirt in there. You overload it with the flavor so its down right sugary then you might as well be drinking Kool - Aid! Which probably is more healthy than those things. AND can we just be honest here, Kool - Aid is much cooler and less misleading than those other new modern flavor "enhancers". KA never made you think it was just making water better. Nope. It said, want an easy and cheap way to make your kids happy? Here, try KA, it has sugar, millions of flavors and is easy to do. BOOM!
Maybe it's because I LOVE WATER. In all its pure, unflavored glory! I don't need "coconut" added to it either to make me drink it. OH can we stop with all this "Coconut Water" mess too? This isn't NEW! This is barely original...wait, its not original. You aren't doing anything to make your water BETTER! There is no way to make water "more hydrating and healthy for you" people!! NO WAY! The only way to make water MORE anything is to just drink MORE OF IT! You want the added benefits of coconut? Go buy a coconut and drink the milk inside and eat the meat...there, you got the benefits of coconut! I LOVE COCONUTS! I whack those things open and eat them all summer long! It has NEVER crossed my mind to water down the coconut milk with water to make it "healthier". Are you serious? Let's just think about this for a moment shall we?
(Thinking)
What is coconut water? It's watered down coconut milk. But doesn't coconut milk look chalky and weird? Why yes, it does. So how does it look less cloudy in my awesome bottle? Because it's watered down hun. Ooohhhhh. Yep. Do you want to make REAL coconut water? This is what you do...buy a coconut, drill two holes in it, drain the coconut milk, cut the coconut in half, cut out the coconut meat (becareful, it can be tricky), shred/grade it like cheese, put it in cheesecloth, tie it tight and squeeze squeeze squeeze all the juice out of it as much as you can. You can even put over a cup, secure with a rubber band and let it drain overnight in the fridge. Once you've gotten all the liquid out, take a half of cup of water, mix it in the coconut milk and drink. That is the real deal...no sugars, additives, flavors or anything unnatural in it. You can't get more NATURAL than that! You don't lose any of the natural goodness either.
All of these fancy "enhanced waters" add things to water to supposedly make it better. You can't make water better, period. Sure, don't get me wrong, i love me some Vitamin Water because its a water based, flavored beverage with vitamins and electrolytes in it that i need to keep me hydrated when I'm seriously lacking in the water department. But do i think it's water? No. Do i use it as a replacement for water? No. I treat it like an extra, not a replacement. Just like athletes don't pretend Gatorade is a water replacement. It's an extra. Many athletes drink water when they aren't training and in their everyday lives.
My point in all this? Stop trying to make water something it doesn't need or want to be. Just drink it. I hear so many people say they don't like water, and that makes me sad. Because your body LOVES WATER. It NEEDS water. All these other things you are drinking are only making it MORE thirsty. You will feel such a change if you just add more water to your life and body. But hey, do what you want. Drink what you want. Just know, water doesn't need to be made better, it just needs to be drank.
May 21, 2013
Drag Me Back In??
It's been a month since I last treated you all to my rantings. So much has been happening in my life and I haven't been that inspired to post anything as of late. BUT the last few days something has been on my mind.
Some of you know I use to write a column online based on dating advice. I haven't written anything in that column for just about a year now. People were always fans of it. I myself was a fan of it for awhile as well. Ultimately, what stopped me from posting aka going on hiatus was the structure I was forced to perform in. I honestly hated my subject matter, "Flirting". I felt so constricted and boxed in. I had to follow really strict rules and guidelines. Everything from length of the article to how long each paragraph could be, tagging, promoting, forcing it down people's throat basically. There was too much emphasis on promoting the site and not just my column, rather than the content in and of itself.
As a mostly creative writer, being so boxed in and smacked on the hand for every little thing is not my cup of tea at all! It was like being force fed sunflower seeds with no water or soda to wash them down with. And heaven forbid you complained about something to your "editor" which i found pretty hilarious that they even called themselves THAT! Every email i sent to her was replied in a scripted, not answering the real question at hand bla bla bla "don't forget to let all your fb and twitter friends/followers know about our great site!" way. Ever since i went on hiatus, she hasn't contacted me ONCE. In fact, i don't think she even knows I'm on hiatus! Oh well, whatever, right.
I seriously LOVE giving advice. My friends, family and complete strangers are always hitting me up for my opinions and thoughts about whatever is going on in their world. I don't consider myself a know-it-all the least bit. I do however give sound, solid advice without forcing people in one direction or not. I have lots of experience...a double edged sword in some cases...and I really don't mind sharing them with others. I also enjoy cluing lost and confused women and men on what makes the opposite sex...or same sex...tick. Perhaps it's my being able to see both sides of any situation, that makes me a go-to person? Who knows. At the end of the day i enjoy helping others any way I can. So this leads me back to thinking...maybe I should go back into my advice column???
The issue at hand is, do i want to go back to that annoying site and try to get another subject so I can cover MORE than just "Flirting" or do i branch out, create my own advice blog and forge out making my own path?? If i do make another blog, I would need people who needed advice to actually send me their questions and issues so I can reply to them in the blog! And I'm not sure people would actually do that...especially strangers. Of course though I would do this blog differently and promote it/myself and hopefully garner some following because of my solid, sound and fun advice and not just because I'm awesome and stuff.
Either way, I have the urge to write and help with my words again. Just not sure if there will be a following as well as good reason for it. I don't want to just be talking to myself. Thoughts???
Some of you know I use to write a column online based on dating advice. I haven't written anything in that column for just about a year now. People were always fans of it. I myself was a fan of it for awhile as well. Ultimately, what stopped me from posting aka going on hiatus was the structure I was forced to perform in. I honestly hated my subject matter, "Flirting". I felt so constricted and boxed in. I had to follow really strict rules and guidelines. Everything from length of the article to how long each paragraph could be, tagging, promoting, forcing it down people's throat basically. There was too much emphasis on promoting the site and not just my column, rather than the content in and of itself.
As a mostly creative writer, being so boxed in and smacked on the hand for every little thing is not my cup of tea at all! It was like being force fed sunflower seeds with no water or soda to wash them down with. And heaven forbid you complained about something to your "editor" which i found pretty hilarious that they even called themselves THAT! Every email i sent to her was replied in a scripted, not answering the real question at hand bla bla bla "don't forget to let all your fb and twitter friends/followers know about our great site!" way. Ever since i went on hiatus, she hasn't contacted me ONCE. In fact, i don't think she even knows I'm on hiatus! Oh well, whatever, right.
I seriously LOVE giving advice. My friends, family and complete strangers are always hitting me up for my opinions and thoughts about whatever is going on in their world. I don't consider myself a know-it-all the least bit. I do however give sound, solid advice without forcing people in one direction or not. I have lots of experience...a double edged sword in some cases...and I really don't mind sharing them with others. I also enjoy cluing lost and confused women and men on what makes the opposite sex...or same sex...tick. Perhaps it's my being able to see both sides of any situation, that makes me a go-to person? Who knows. At the end of the day i enjoy helping others any way I can. So this leads me back to thinking...maybe I should go back into my advice column???
The issue at hand is, do i want to go back to that annoying site and try to get another subject so I can cover MORE than just "Flirting" or do i branch out, create my own advice blog and forge out making my own path?? If i do make another blog, I would need people who needed advice to actually send me their questions and issues so I can reply to them in the blog! And I'm not sure people would actually do that...especially strangers. Of course though I would do this blog differently and promote it/myself and hopefully garner some following because of my solid, sound and fun advice and not just because I'm awesome and stuff.
Either way, I have the urge to write and help with my words again. Just not sure if there will be a following as well as good reason for it. I don't want to just be talking to myself. Thoughts???
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