The Gentlemen

People these days capture moments with cameras and share them with the world instantly. They must constantly tell the world how they are living their life. It doesn't happen as much as i would like it too...i guess that's what makes each time it DOES happen that much more special and unique. Unplugging, being MIA, just enjoying the space and company you are in, not bothered by anybody else, a mini vacation from life...i love it.

Oh the joys of knowing a gentlemen. Someone who has charm, humor and a view of life beyond his facebook page. Someone who values the person in front of him for who they are, not what they can do for him. The guy who is very popular but will make time for you and only you, making you feel like the oh so special person in his life...even if you aren't. The guy who not just listens to you, but hears what you are not saying and allows you to either "go there" or not. Either way, you feel comfortable on all levels with him. He does the chivalry thing without missing a beat. Asks how you are, because he genuinely cares about your well being. He will be there when you need him, even if he is across the country or across the globe. And he will make you feel like he is right next door. Whether you are having a drink, seeing a movie or just chillin in a random cafe in a random place, he will naturally make sure you enjoy your time together. Even if you are just friends, you know you have a solid one in the gentlemen.

My faith is restored in men almost daily, thanx to the gentlemen I know. They aren't just attractive, cool guys who wear fedoras and know how to put on a good suite and tie here and there. They are real, honest, men. They pull no punches, don't use smoke and mirrors and tell you what's what anytime you ask. I've realized, gentlemen are good soul people. They attract a lot of attention from both sexes but don't give it away freely. You sort of have to have a connection on a deeper level to stay within a gentlemen's circle. To not be forgotten in the throngs of people clamoring to know them. They know, no strangers. It's fascinating to watch them in action with people everywhere they go. It's very easy for them to put others at ease, make them smile and make a new friend, so to speak. They aren't pompous or alpha unless truly necessary and even then, showing their dominance, is usually for situations it must occur. But once the situation is over, they are back to their cool selves and keep it pushing.

Why do women love a gentlemen so much? If there was a clear and easy answer I would say what it is...but there isn't. It's not black and white at all. What it is though, is exciting. A woman...a REAL WOMAN, knows a gentlemen when she see's him a mile away. We can almost smell it! Even if he is a "gentlemen in training" we just know it's there. I have witnessed "mini gentlemen" as well. They are little boys who are charming and sweet and love to make his mom, grandmother, sister or any female of that matter, smile and laugh. Now, they don't always grow up and stay gentlemen but that usually depends on the parents. Gentlemen don't have a particular look or way of dressing or hair style. They don't all hangout together either. They don't frequent the same places too often...unless it's a coffee house or neighborhood bar, but even then, they cast wide nets no matter where they live. I know gentlemen in flip flops, uniforms, suits and Star Wars shirts. They come in all shapes and sizes. They aren't a dying breed, trust me...they aren't. And they really aren't hard to get the attention of. The good soul of a gentlemen seeks out other good souls. So be yourself, be genuine and be real. Even if you think they are out of your league, I'm pretty sure you have something within you that will connect with them. And don't get it twisted, they have a naughty side to them that very few know, but when you know...you KNOW ;)

Like I said, I've been honored to know and be around gentlemen from all over and of all types. I have them in my family and definitely have them in my inner circle. I feel special when I am with them. I know I am in good hands, good company and my life is better for knowing them. I try to do the same for them in return and let them know as often as I can, how much i appreciate them being who they are. I ego stroke a gentlemen often haha And if he is a real gentlemen, he will take it humbly, might crack a "i know" joke but really, they are thankful for such a compliment. Also, it keeps showing them that they are appreciated for who they are in a massive sea of jerks, pricks, douche bags and assholes.

Gentlemen...they are MOST good.