A Good Man

I'm really tired of women saying "there are no good men" around. That is not true. It's a lie. Know how I know this? Because I know a bunch of good men and they are all on my facebook and most of them are single. So what is your excuse now?!

I am not here to stand on a soapbox about hurting a good guy and messing him up for the rest of us. Nope. Not doing that. What I am going to briefly do is tell you about a good man I knew and loved.

In the middle of a crazy young dating life, I met a good man. We became fast friends and an even faster couple. Back then FB, Twitter, Instagram and all the social medias weren't as popular. So there were never pics of us plastered all over the place. No annoying mushy status updates. Hell, we barely had cell phones! When we were together there were no distractions from these things. And only a handful of people knew about us and that was fine. Close friends saw our happiness. There was no need to post it all over the world to prove it. We went through 9/11 together. So many things happened while we were together. He set a high standard for everyone else that came after him.

He was a good man. Even after a good long year together, we decided to part ways. Never any ill will towards one another. Always supportive, protective and cared about one another. We remained friends all these years. He went on to have a beautiful family with his gorgeous wife. I was always proud of him for being an outstanding father, husband and friend.

They say, the good ones leave too soon and the troublemakers stay around forever. I am starting to believe this very much. My good friend went home to Heaven this past Sunday.

You don't get many chances to meet amazing people in this life. But when you do, you have to cherish it. Who cares if the relationship didn't last forever. Who cares if they only want to keep you as a friend and nothing more. Who cares if they came in and out of your life in a very short time. None of that matters. What matters is the time you had with them. You shouldn't forget it. Hold it in your heart. Hold them in your soul. Because when it's all over and you go on your own way, you can never get that back with that exact person.

If you have a good man in your life...friend, husband, lover etc....please please please, support them in whatever they are doing. Encourage them to keep being a good man. Watch out for them when evil bitches want to sink their claws into them, thus ruining them down the road. Love and adore them. Give them a reason to be proud of being  THE GOOD GUY! It's not easy for them in this messed up superficial world. So many times are they are pressured to change who they are to satisfy everyone else. Embrace your good guys and let them know, if no one else appreciates who they are, you do and you always will.

People come into our lives for a reason. My good friend came into my life to show me what a good man is and how i deserve to be treated. I will forever be grateful to him for that. Time is fleeting, embrace the ones you love now...or at the very least drop them a fb wall post so they know you still hope the best for them.

dedicated to my dear friend Al, who is smiling up in heaven now, with the best kicks in the clouds!