Sucker Punched But Smiling

As women we all go through that whole "screw men! i'm going to lose weight, cut my hair and buy a new outfit to make him wish he never (insert stupid thing a guy did to hurt you here)." moment. We always get sad, then angry about the situation. Then we want to change ourselves or something about us to make things better...?

I have no idea how cutting my hair will make me feel better about a dick being a dick. But I too have fallen victim to wanting to change myself to make some dick regret he did something to me. Hell, I just had that moment about 15 minutes ago lol I have no shame admitting this to you all. Soon after though, I asked myself "wait...why do I have to change anything?" Because really, I'm not the problem in this situation. He is the problem so he should change. Or at the very least, try to be less of a dick to future females lol

There is no reason for someone who isn't fucked up in a real way to change themselves just because someone won't like/love/date/marry etc them. There really isn't anything wrong with you. That person most likely just isn't for you, and them being a dick to you, is a sign saying "HEY! YOU CAN DO BETTER!!" A sign we as women (and some men) tend to ignore. We want to keep the rose tinted glasses on and believe we can change the dick or change ourselves to accommodate the dick. When in reality, we just shouldn't have that dick in our lives in a serious manner. Sure, you can be friends with dicks...you just have to accept them as dicks and keep them arms length away. Besides, you have more important people to spend your time with.

There is nothing wrong with changing yourself for.....wait for it....YOURSELF! But please, don't do it for someone that is going to make you jump through hoops to win them over! You know you can do better, so fucking go out there and get you some better honey! And if it takes longer than you would like, to find the "better", then get a hobby, a bottle and a good friend and deal with it. We all know, nothing worth having, comes easy. I believe you shouldn't give in easily either. I rather wait many years for someone who will make me endlessly happy, than to just hop into something with someone who is mildly entertaining. That's just me though....you do what you want...no judgement.

I won't lie...on more than one occasion I've had several great revenge plans in mind. Things to do to myself to make dicks regret hurting me or not giving me a chance. But being the over thinker and seeing both sides of every situation person that I am, I also realized, I'm not the one who needs to create karma, revenge or anything of that nature to make them take notice of what they missed out. If I just keep being my awesome self, keep going about what I want to do for MYSELF AND MY LIFE, everything else will take care of its self. I will keep being awesome and if they happen to finally realize what they missed out on, cool, if not, whatever. It's not going to change me either way. And I believe if you are really honest with yourself, you will see that there is no need to exact revenge on these folks.

I am not going to break out the Christina Aguilara song "Beautiful" because that stuff annoys the crap out of me most times lol But the sentiment is true. You are kickass, whether a dick realizes it or not. It's going to suck continuing to search for someone who will love you for you, but while you are searching/waiting/dating, DO YOU. Make yourself more awesome for YOU and when that person comes around, you will not only be adored but you will know within yourself that it's true and you deserve it!

Happy New Year...thank you for reading, sharing and commenting! I'm definitely going to do more postings next year and hopefully my plan of being adored for my wit, humor and honesty by the masses will come true! mwha ha ha ha ha ha!!!