Sexy Average

Friend of mine asked me could a guy have "sexy qualities" but not be super "attractive". I love my friends, they always get me thinking and thus sharing with the rest of the world on just about anything lol

I definitely believe a guy can be sexy but not super attractive. Sexiness is something that comes from within. Attractiveness usually starts on the outside and can seep inside but some don't bother to look that deep into a person. Sexiness is like confidence, you can have it no matter if you are a 10 or a 5.

Let's be honest, no one seriously believes deep down inside they are a 10 all the time, every time. But it doesn't stop us from acting like we are. Same goes with sexiness, everyone has it, but not everyone shows it or even knows they have it. Intelligence is a sexy quality to some people. When we think of nerds, many of us don't think "sexy". But there are definitely some sexy nerds out there and i'm not talking about the ones who wear the stupid "nerd glasses" and tight t-shirts doing Duck Face in their pics on FB.

To me Channing Tatum is not all that attractive, BUT i do think he has a sexy quality that is, his loving affection for his wife when he speaks of her. On the other end, someone like Blair Underwood is insanely sexy to me looks and personality wise. His confidence, demeanor and the way he carries himself is all sexy and attractive to me. Phew, i'm getting hot just thinking about him lol

Sexiness is objective. A woman could adore a man who has a job, decent car and loves his mom and call him sexy every day, even if others don't think he is all that attractive. He could be a solid 6 but to her he is a 10+ because of his qualities. Someone's looks can draw you in but their personality keeps you there or pushes you away. Attractiveness doesn't hold a candle to personality...at least that's what i feel.

I wish people would just be more honest about these things. You could meet a great person and not be attracted to them. That's perfectly fine. Not everyone is going to get our blood boiling every time. They might just get the wheels in your head turning, making you discover what you want in a mate. They could help you heal from past heartache. They could be that window you need to jump through when all the doors have slammed shut. You aren't going to be attracted to everyone and everyone isn't going to be attracted to you. If a good, decent, fun person comes around, don't toss them aside because you don't want to see them naked lol Make a friend and keep your eyes open. You never know what you might find out about yourself when you stop looking for that wonderful, sexy, attractive person that really doesn't exist as much as we build them up to be in our heads =)