Let's Try To Stop...

1. Asking men what we rate on a scale of 1 to 10: You are a 10 no matter who you are, what you look like and all those other factors. If you yourself do not feel you are a 10 YOU are the only one who can raise that number. Don't do it for some guy who probably won't value you in the first place. Do it for YOURSELF! Do it because looking in the mirror and mildly turning yourself on is hot! Do it because confidence is much more sexier than pity. Do it because hanging out with confident people is much more fun!

2. Settling for the next thing that walks by: Men and Women settle. It's sadly apart of who we are when we are at our lowest. This desperate act isn't good for anyone. So don't settle. Even if it means not getting laid for longer than 6 months (i know its painful but it can be so very worth the wait!). Besides, when you settle, you get bored and have to break up and who wants to go through all that rubbish =P

3. Being a coward: I mean speak up for yourself and get what you want. See someone you want to talk to, do it. Ladies, buy a guy a drink or better yet, a burger! Guys, even if you think she is out of your league go for it! You have to try in order to know what will happen next. If you don't try, you will never know and yes, as cliche as it is, you will always ask "what if". So try shake off the "what if's" at least once a week and see what happens. And don't go wasting money on clothes and expensive things to try and make yourself FEEL BETTER about approaching someone, again you are awesome the way you are, so go show it off!

4. Believing the hype: Not all women are size freaks when it comes to men's packages. Not all men are size freaks when it comes to women's body type. So stop believing what the small percentage of society wants you to believe. Don't discount someone based on what your friends might think (unless they are against the person because it doesn't make YOU a better person). Let's dispel a few rumors...

-The size of a man's hands says nothing about his package! It will however tell you if he is metro, blue collard or white collard kind of guy.

-Not all black women are angry and ghetto, no matter what the movies and music videos show you. And not all of us want to be video hoes...or hoes at all.

-Not all women love accents. Even though it is hot, it doesn't mean we will drop panties for any guy with an accent...at least most of us have a little more class about us lol

-Women do judge a man on how he is dressed. It might be one of the last top 5 things we think about but it's there, so pull up your pants!

-Men LIKE to look at girls in tight, skin showing, ass and boobies out dressed women but they rarely date them for any real length of time, let alone marry them. So yes, the saying is true, "you can't turn a hoe into a housewife". Especially if you want her to stay faithful =P

-Nerds are definitely hot and sexy but not for the reasons most think. We like nerds and geeks because they generally aren't assholes. They think for themselves, get shit done and love their moms. Also, they are very laid back and have great sense of humor about life and themselves. So don't overlook that female or male nerd next time...we can be some of the best people you know ;)

-Lastly, not all women want a man with deep pockets or big bank accounts. Lots of money is nice thing to have but it doesn't make for a quality relationship and at the end of the day that's all most women want. Don't get it twisted though, you NEED TO HAVE A JOB! It just doesn't have to be Bill Gates status.

There is so much other things we as sane people need to stop doing to each other. Women have just as many hang ups as men, so we all put ourselves through the ringer. The thing we have to remember is, no matter what anyone says, you are awesome and deserve everything awesome life has to offer you. Go easy on yourself already!