Feb 1, 2019

And...I'm....Back....sort of...

About 2018...

We were all there. We know what happened and happened and happened. It was a really rough year for me personally and for the nation. But we made it. Thank goodness we made it!
Don't ever want to do that again.

About 2019 so far....

I know i have a gift for uncovering the truth, but man, i didn't know it would be this fun to use my detective and curiosity skills to find so many fake dudes online. I mean, i'm uncovering fake sugar daddies, fake military service men and women, fake ballers/shot callers, fake writers, fake everything! So. Many. Fake. People online. And i'm not even working that hard to find them. A few hash tags here, some conversations there...BOOM everyone runs to my DMs. Even when i don't want them there...there are still there. Random and weird. I know i'm a writer but i can't make some of this stuff up. And i'm having a blast!

This is what happens when hockey is on break. It's your fault NHL for having the All Star break! I don't know how else to entertain myself some times but this detective work is paying off nicely lol

In other news....I'm really trying to get back into my writing. I haven't done anything in far too long. My continued secret story I've been working on for a couple years now needs me to dust it off. I'm hoping some quick writing and creative exercises will spark me back into that groove.

I'm pretty sure I will be talking more about my detective work in another post...soon. So stay tuned. As well as covering other topics that i just need to rant about. I miss ranting my points across a blank page. It was highly therapeutic for me. And i don't need "likes" i just want to say what i gotta say and move on.

For example....watching the Family Guy episode "Piling Them Softly" right now. And Stewie is high on A.D.H.D pills. He has become seriously slow and big eyed. Where as Brian on the same pills makes him super hyper and focused. All this reminded me of my last trip to Vegas for my birthday and my friend bought me edibles. It was one of the most relaxed and fun experiences I've had in a VERY LONG TIME. I laughed so much and then when it was time to chill, i relaxed and melted into my bed with a pillow fort i built around me and slept so much. There wasn't a tense muscle in my whole body. And for someone as stressed out as me on a daily basis....that's a miracle! My friends said i woke up a few times, during a movie we were watching and was giggling but it wasn't at a funny part, then i passed back out LOL I'm giggling right now thinking about how much fun i had! Something so simple yet so satisfying. I can't wait to have another stress vacation...that's what i call it when i eat gummies :D

Yep...that is what is on my mind now. Being high on yummy gummies. So stay tuned for more of that.

I'll do my best to crank something out at least once a month...hopefully more. Thanx for reading! May 2019 be much better to us than 2018 ever could have been!

May 24, 2018

Just the Core

WARNING...

This post might make you feel upset, betrayed, bitter etc. If it hits you on a personal level, I am not sorry for how you feel. I stand by everything I am about to say 100000000000%. It is what it is.
Now that, that's outta the way, lets get down to the nitty gritty.

This year has been pretty hard for me personally. I've been through a lot in a short amount of time. So much so, I'm praying hardcore for a break, the next half of the year. Shit has hit the fan for me and for several of my friends. We have been pushing through it together but it's still been rough.

My core friends is a very small group. Core meaning, people I could call at 2am to come get me out of jail and they would be there in a heartbeat. Core meaning, people I'd give a kidney or part of my liver to and vice versa. Core meaning, when they hurt, I hurt and vice versa. Some of these core people live within 10 minutes of me and others are on the other side of the planet. Either way....these are my people. Meredith Grey had Christina Yang....I'm blessed to have more than one Christina to my Meredith. And if they ever needed me, i'd do the same for them without a doubt.

Soon i'll be going on a little end of the week adventure with one of my best friends to see another best friend. The one going with me, is incredibly busy all the time. She leaves the state and country almost every weekend. We live within 10 minutes of each other and make plans to see one another weeks ahead. She is on my calendar and I am on hers. It's how we do. And it works out very well. The friend we are going to see is just as busy and has a family on top of that. He lives 2 hours away from us. We talk almost every day and work hard to see each other as much as we can. And i know if i ever needed either of them, they'd be there for me in a heartbeat, just as i would be there for them. It's such a simple thing to do....meet up.....but it's going to be one of the best moments of my life and year.

I have friends who live within 10 minutes of me and they can't find any time for me. NONE. I'm the one constantly reaching out to them to try and catch up, but I usually get the shaft. I literally cannot get these people to meet up for coffee. And we aren't even going to talk about going on adventures near and far. This hasn't been a recent thing either. It's something that has been going on for years and i have gotten so sick and tired of it.

Social media allows us to know almost everything about everyone all the time. We check in everywhere. So, yeah, i see you check in to somewhere close to my work. I see you check in somewhere close to my house. I see you. And there have been times when I've seen some people check in near me....and i'm actually available for a quick bite or coffee so i contact them to see if they want to meet up real fast....nope. I could literally stalk some of these so called friends and still not get the time of day. It's fucked up. It's annoying. It's one sided. YET some of these same people get mad at me and try to guilt trip me for not inviting them to coffee and adventures.

Meanwhile.....my friends on the other side of the country and world, I can make "virtual coffee" plans with them in an instant. I can make travel plans with them pretty damn fast too. I see some of them MORE than i see the people who live in my same city. How is this even possible? I don't know but it's true!

It's a constant thing that keeps happening and I'm this close (haha yep) to cutting more folks off for this fuckery. I learned many years ago, I cannot hold a relationship up by myself. I can't be the one who carries the relationship....of any kind. No one should have to pull more than half their weight in a relationship. If they do....it's not fair nor right and needs to stop ASAP.

You treat people the way you want to be treated right? So if you don't put any effort into our friendship nor will I. It's that simple. You don't make someone a priority, when they only make you an option. I've done so much for so many of these so called friends and this is the thanx I get? FUCK THAT. My mom and grandmother used to tell me, sometimes you gotta love people from a distance. The older I've gotten the more it's become a reality. You can't make anyone do anything; you can only do what you want to do and react to the rest. This is me, reacting to the rest I suppose.

Like the song says.....you're gonna miss me when I'm gone.

PS....I'm sorry i've been MIA for so long. I am going to try really hard to get back in this space more and not just tweet all my thoughts lol

Feb 27, 2017

Never Quiet


There are so many things i could say about the whole Trump drama. But i'm not going to go into that because it would just make for a novel and I don't have time for that lol

What i want to address is the fact that people, as of late, have been throwing around the whole "if you are a Christian" phrase and then some gibberish behind it to justify "accepting Trump as President" and to stop throwing hate his way. So let me get this straight....being a Christian means ignoring the evil that is being done and spewed by a man leading the country? Being a Christian means ignoring the common sense the Lord gave you to decipher right from wrong and just waiting it out?? Being a Christian means just praying and hoping for the best??

Since when did ANY faith say, "just pray and do nothing and hope for the best"????

From all that i have learned of many religions and from studying atheism, none of them just say to sit with your eyes closed, ears plugged and mouth shut when evil takes over. None of them say to be deaf, dumb and blind to the reality of things around you. A huge part of all faiths is proclaiming TRUTH in the face of evil.

Simply put....if you see evil and hate being done, you need to do something about it. Period. It doesn't mean go out and do evil to the ones who have wronged or done evil to you. It means do not let that evil continue. You can definitely knock out evil with love. Yes....LOVE TRUMPS HATE. Speaking up, standing up, helping others during these tumultuous times is what people are supposed to do. No matter what you believe in. If you know right from wrong, then you know that whats happening now is wrong. It's evil. It's not good for any of us. People are killing others out of hate and fear. They are yelling and destroying people's lives because their "leader" is making it OK to do so. Whether he speaks about it or not, always says SOMETHING. To not speak about the home grown terrorism happening every day in our country, says something. To pull families apart is saying something. To make fun of women and disabled people, is saying something. To not speak about harassment, is saying something. To act like SHIT ISN'T HAPPENING, is saying something. To blame EVERYONE ELSE for your ignorance is saying something. To try and silence media and go against the 1st Amendment because you don't like what people are saying about you...aka the truth about you...is saying something.

So you just want me to pray and hope it goes away? You want me to accept the evil saturating our country and infecting the world? You want me to stop speaking the truth?

I wasn't given a brain, the power to reason and a mouth, to just sit by and not use it. There is no way I can be quiet about whats happening. There is no fiber in me that doesn't despise this man with a passion. There is no part of me that can just NOT. It has nothing to do with Clinton or Bernie or anyone else. It has to do with RIGHT AND WRONG. IT'S THAT FUCKING SIMPLE!

If you can't handle me speaking truth and resisting, then fuck off and go away already. I'm sorry you can't see the evil happening. Or actually, i'm sorry that you're choosing to support and/or ignore it. As shit continues to go down, you too will be affected by it. Maybe then you'll see the truth. Maybe you won't. Either way, good luck with that!

To my fellow Rebels...keep going, stay strong, we are in this for the long haul! And always, always, always RESIST!

Jan 29, 2017

Night On Broadway....Night with America

Last night i got the pleasure of going out into my wonderful city, Los Angeles and experience the world lining the streets of Broadway. It was amazing to see so many people coming out to enjoy the arts, culture, music, food and everything else the festival had to offer. Everyone was there, mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, kids, grandparents, best friends, lovers, everyone! The great melting pot that is LA was there and it was beautiful to see and experience.

During these crazy times in our country it was a much needed getaway from the chaos and get back to being....human again. Enjoying life and laughing with strangers. Dancing the meringue with a handsome teenager. Cheering when your favorite old school song came on. Eating food from all over the world. Talking about Star Wars with someone who notices your fandom. High-fiving grandma and grandpa for cutting a rug. Seeing amazing theater performed for free. Riding a ferris wheel in the middle of the block. Petting huge dogs. Watching little kids blow bubbles with all their might! And realizing you can't cover the whole thing in one night but it was fun to try!

This is what America is about. Coming together for the common good. There were protesters but they were chanting something we all felt. Flags from all over the world flew in the night sky. It was simply beautiful and amazing to experience.

I know i needed the break from such an exhausting week of resisting the evil that is trying to rule over us now. I needed to dance in a crowd at my first Silent Disco hosted by some of my absolute favorite DJs. I needed to smile with strangers. I needed to hug strangers. I needed to release the stress and just get back to living my life for a moment. And i got to do it with my best friend and partner in crime like always.

The road of resistance is long, hard and worth it. We can either sit back and let it screw us over or stand up and fight back. I choose to fight back daily any way i can. But we must remember to not forget to take care of ourselves. We can't forget to love the people immediately to our left and right. We can't forget to laugh, dance, eat, drink and be merry. We all deserve a break from the madness. It doesn't mean we aren't fighting. It means we aren't going to let the fight put a dark cloud over us. Love wins always. There is a time to fight and a time to dance. Last night, i danced and now i'm ready to get back to the fight!

Thank you to the creators of Night on Broadway, it's sponsors, its participants, its volunteers and of course my KCRW family. It was a great night i think we all needed and appreciated that much more after a long week. Stay strong my fellow rebels!

Sep 29, 2016

I Got This

One minute ago i sat down to write my father a message asking for money. And as i sat there, thinking of how to do this i thought, "damn, I've really hit a wall if i'm doing this". As soon as i typed "Hey Dad" i got nauseous and just said, NOPE. I can't do it. I absolutely cannot do it. I cannot ask this man for money. Call it pride, stubbornness or whatever you want but i cannot do it. I rather keep doing what i am doing, struggles and all and keep doing it all on my own. There is no part of me that can stomach asking that man for ANYTHING. And I've never asked him for anything after all these years. Not one thing. Not even for flowers when my grandmother, his mother died. Not even for prayers when mom was in the hospital sick. Not even for RESPECT after all the crap he did, when again, my grandmother, his mother passed away. Nope, nothing. So coming up on a milestone birthday it's weird to be even considering asking him for something...something i am easily owed. But i won't. Because i am better than that! I am not giving up and i am NOT asking him for anything, just like i haven't all these years. I haven't seen my father since i was 18 and i'm in my 30s now. No communication either. He can talk to everyone else but his first child and only daughter...me. It is what it is. I am sharing this moment because i know others can relate. I know i am not alone in this constant battle with a parent. Internal battle that we grow out of but at times shows it's ugly, annoying head. You can do better. You will be fine. We all will. Struggles and all. Just keep pushing on, do the right things and don't be afraid. I believe in God, so i'm just sticking with that and keeping my head up. But even if you don't believe in a higher power, you got this. It sucks doing the right thing all on our own, all the time is super hard and stressful but at the end of the day you can hold your head up and know YOU DID IT!! So thankful for my mother who without i could be on the streets for all i know. That alone keeps me from lowering myself to asking that man for anything. I made my peace with it a long time ago...not gonna let some small money struggles undo all the work i've done personally to unhinge me. Because we all know, this fire sign can not keep her mouth shut if someone tries to tell her what's what and its a lie lol Gotta keep ya head up!!

Jun 13, 2016

Living While Scared

I haven't been legit scared for my life and the life of my loved ones in just about most of my life. The last 2 years (including this year, which is just mind boggling sad and scary) have given me a fear inside that i am not use too. I can say i haven't had this fear since 9/11. And even then, i was scared but i wasn't set in my fear like i am now.

I get worried about being at work for too long some times. I am very aware of who is in the store and if anyone is getting loud and out of hand. I try to stay away from the situation but still keep eyes on it. I shouldn't be scared at work. It's not an anxiety fear, thankfully. But it's a "i am out of here if shit goes down" fear. Like...bolting out of there. I find myself seeing which males are working and if i feel confident they will help be protective of us if need be. I know which females are going to fight anyone who will do us wrong. I know who to comfort and grab if something does go down and they are near me. It's just like.....always have a plan of action just in case. And i've always thought this way, but i haven't felt like i've needed this more so than i have within these last 2 years.
I am scared for myself and my friends when we are at big events. I wonder how big is the crowd going to be and what is the quickest way out. I'm just like....always prepared!

It's heartbreaking to feel this way now. To have to think of these things. To have to be like "if something goes down i have to text my mommy first". I shouldn't be thinking this way but now i am. We tell kids the world is a scary place but nothing has confirmed that more so in my lifetime than whats happening now. It's happening in our own backyard, hell in our own homes!! It's no longer on a huge political basis, it's right here sitting near us, waiting to happen. It's like.....not IF if it will happen but WHEN. And i hate feeling this way! My faith gives me comfort and security. But it doesn't mean i'm not scared of the devil who lives inside of people.

I think about my little loves aka kids my friends have had and hope hope hope with all my heart we can get things together in our communities and in our country so that they don't have to live with this kind of fear. I want to protect them from this pain and sadness. And utter stupidity!!

The Orlando shooting makes me think about how messed up some people are. How misguided they are. How hateful they are over something that has absolutely NOTHING to do with them! It makes me think like....someone could come and kill me because of my skin color or sexual orientation (for the record i am straight but that's not the point). Someone could come to a place i frequent and just slaughter us because of a misguided hatred they believe is true and right. I could be in a gay nightclub...it's one of the most fun places to be in. I could be at a concert, a bookstore, work, church, school, shopping mall, public transportation etc. I could literally be anywhere and someone could come and end it all. I don't fear dying, i fear dying by the hands of someone who doesn't like me for something none of us have control over. Someone could dislike me hanging out with white guys and decide it must be stopped. It's like everything is up for grabs to dislike and do evil things in response to it. Seriously.

So i have that to worry about and then everything that's happening in my personal life. Good grief, this life is not only hard but its draining!! I don't know if i have a real point to this rant. I just wanted to share what's been going through my head as of late. I know i'm not alone in these feelings. We have to stand together and fight for the right things. Fight for truth, love and peace. We all are in this together, it's the only way we can survive. Hug, talk to, and love your special people in your life. It can all change in a heartbeat.

May we all be protected, comforted and strong during these times

Mar 20, 2016

Whoa...Hey There!

It's been a minute because you know life happens. Apparently 2016 didn't like us in the entertainment world so much. We lost some great artists and people.

From what i've been seeing from friends and family, 2016 hasn't been that good overall to us. Not sure why? Is it the whole 16 part? Is it the downswing from 2015? It's March, almost April and the drama is surreal!

Some of us, myself included, have fallen a bit. Got all caught up in everything we are carrying and people we are caring about and forgot about ourselves. So you go on and on and on until you fall down. Sometimes you trip and fall and you stay down for awhile. You hangout in the little pit that is yourself ya know. And you see what you've been missing and doing to yourself. You become honest and realize, "hey...i need me time, i need to get back to my awesome self."

If you're lucky, you have some solid people around you to help you get out of your own pit and get back to yourself more. They will support you all the way. That's what good friends do. I have to say, i'm really blessed to have some good friends and family in my life to help me when i get into my pits. And i try to do the same for them.

Alright, so if 2016 has been kicking your ass and you found yourself in a pit, i hope you have some good people around you to help you get out of it. But most importantly, i hope you don't stay in that pit too long. You're not alone either. You are NEVER alone. If someone out there wants to talk anytime, hit me up, we gotta stick together in this.

To the rest of you having a good year, congrats and i hope it continues!

Be grateful, be thankful, be there for each other.